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So FI got my e-ring today, but instead of looking it over and hiding like we had planned, he brings it to me, frowning. He hates it, it's way smaller then we thought and when I put it on he said it looks like promise ring.So now I am torn, I'm sad because he doesn't like it and plans to send it back, I'm also bummed because I kind of do like it even though it isn't what I wanted. Personally I don't know how I feel about any of this, I mean it's just a ring....But I also know since we are so offbeat anyway that the few "traditions" are really important. We talk about it a little and I think he is gonna trade it in for something else that he liked. In short, today sucks....I expected it to be all awesome, because I knew he was planning on giving it to me tomorrow all romantic like...This is not even close to how I imagined this going..
I think that it is a beautiful ring and in no way, shape or form looks ANYTHING like a promise ring!! Sorry neither of you are thrilled with it but hopefully you can find something you both love and have that romantic time you want!
I don't think it's small at all, and I think it's really beautiful! I eyed a few similar ones when we were still looking for rings. If you like it, I think you should tell him so and keep it. It looks gorgeous on you.
It's beautiful. It's so sad he doesn't like it, but you know it's important for the guy to like the ring.
I don't love it, but it is really pretty and it was cheap so I do kind of like it. He says its up to me but I know he doesn't like it. Either way we are gonna have to send it back because it needs resized cus it give my finger muffin top.... Honestly I was more stoked about the romantic dinner that I knew he was planning then the ring, we never do anything together anymore so the idea of spending one on one time with him made me crazy happy, I think thats were most of my bummed outness is coming from.
@Koolbeans621: I think your ring is really beautiful, and it really doesn't look small. If you really do like it, then you should tell him, and if you don't then maybe he can get something else and have a surprise for you. :) It really is a pretty ring though.
Aww, I 'm sorry he doesn't like it. But-- you'll have another, new story soon. And a ring that he's proud of, so in turn, you'll also be proud of it.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME??
....It's GORGEOUS!!! I'd be thrilled with that ring. Great choice!
don't look like a promise ring to me, but it doesn look ill fitting, maybe that's part of the problem?
I think it's beautiful, and I don't even like three stone rings, so that's saying something. I know what we say probably won't make you change your mind, but I agree with a PP that the size of the ring itself (meaning the band size) is probably part of what's throwing it off for you. It looks NOTHING like any promise ring I've ever seen, and if I saw that on someone's finger, I would definitely know it was an engagement ring.
I'm sorry you and your SO feel this way about the ring, I know that has to be a big disappointment. If you guys are going to have such negative feelings attached to this ring, then it might be a good idea to go ahead and trade it for something you both will be completely happy with. My FI and I had a similar situation when we started our ring search. He initially bought a ring from a saleswoman who was very rude to us, and we ultimately decided to return it and go with a different ring from a different company. It wasn't so much that we didn't like the ring, but the negative experience attached to it made us not want to keep it.
Sorry for writing you a novel, but I just know how you feel, so I had a lot to say. I hope you end up with a ring you both can be very happy with! :)
It is gorgeous, and in no way looks like a promise ring to me. So sorry to hear you don't like it.
I think it is pretty! But if he isn't happy with it I would let him get select a different one for you. You want him to feel good and proud about the ring that he bought for you.
I really like it! I agree with PPs, it doesn't look like a promise ring at all. My fiancé actually thinks my ring is a bit too small (in carat-size) but I love the size of my ring. I think he wishes he could have afforded something bigger. Whatever, I love it. However, if neither of you are happy with this ring, then you should exchange it for something you both love :)
I love it! It reminds me a lot of this ring at Tiffany's! If neither of you are happy you should exchange it for something different though.
I think that if you only kind of like it, you should go ahead and trade up. don't try to talk yourself into it if your gut feeling is that it's not right for you, you might regret that later.
@Ms. Martian: Ooooh it does look like that ring. So pretty! Good eye!
it looks small size wise (resize it) but i think its gorgeous! but then again.. YOU have to be happy with it. if your FI agrees, then change it :)
I think it's really pretty. One or two bees have similar e-rings and everyone generally agrees that they are amazing! What ring did YOU have in mind when you dreamed about getting engaged? If this is your dream ring, don't let your FI sway you to exchange it. However, if it's not what you wanted, don't hesitate to get exactly what you've been dreaming of.
I think it's because of the way the center stone is mounted. I think it looks a little like a promise ring as well.
I like it a lot, doesn't look like a promise ring to me. But if he hates it and you aren't sure, get soemthing you both LOVE, and report back with an update! I am so sorry you are having this experience . . . :( Ugh
He gets to marry the woman of his dreams! WHO CARES about the ring? (sorry)
It's not that it's not a disappointing situation, but I honestly could get engaged with a pebble and a piece of string and still be the happiest woman in the world...
Such disappointment shouldn't exist when you're with the love of your life. :/
I don't mean to offend.
I dont think it looks like a promise ring, but if you both are not happy with it then you might as well get something you both like.
It doesn't look like a promise ring to me. I think it's pretty. =)
The ring is something that lasts - so you want it to be reflective of both your tastes & the shape/size/style that you both like.
I think that if you both arn't thrilled about it, def send it back.
And hey, once your new one comes in, you can still have a romantic celebration to celebrate finding the ring of your dreams!
Send it back and trade up.
Yes the ring is lovely. I really like it. But your fiance brought it to you FROWNING at it. You were happier with the dinner than your ring. You guys DON'T like the ring. If even your fiance wants to send it back, that means something. Get something that you will actually WANT to wear for the rest of your life.
blingbling http://www.pompeii3.com/default.aspx, they are currently redoing there website soo there are a lot of rings that they have that are not up right now...
Thanks to everyone who said it's pretty, that made me feel a little better. We sat down last night and talked about it and we sort of decided to upgrade to a different ring.Honestly I am still on the fence because the other ring we are looking at is more $$$ then this one and I don't know if we will have issues with that too.
With us it is really about the ring, the look and style, and all that matrialistic jazz so this is a hard choice. We are different and have done things a little backward so its not so much about the sentinment but that he wants me to have some awesome sparkle like everyone else.
Anyhoo thanks agian for everyones support.
It doesn't look like a promise ring to me. If you like it, keep it.
Too bad he doesn't like it. I think it's gorgeous, unique, and looks beautiful on your hand. The size of the stones is perfect. However, if both of you aren't thrilled with it, best to find something you both love.
Seems like its time for you to walk away from the process and let him decide. I think the ring you got is beautiful. I see they have one with a larger carat weight if you like the style, but it also appears to be more than DOUBLE!
I'm sorry it wasn't what you imagined and you didn't get your romantic dinner. I truly think it's beautiful and so unique looking! But hopefully you will find something that you both love! (And have a little romance the second time around!)
I think you should get something you both love so when you look down at it you feel happy and excited. I kind of think the size is throwing things off. It doesnt look like it is scaled right for your finger either. Go shopping together and pick out something you really love!
I have to agree w the PP it doesn't look like a promise ring, its beautiful!
My old e-ring is just like that one. I can't tell the scale of yours but mine came from Jared. It was marketed as an anniversary ring though. I loved the ring, however it did give me a muffin top like you say. My fingers looked fat and shorter with that ring so when I got engaged to be married again I chose a different ring and my fingers now do not look short and fat.
Well, it got sent back and now I guess I just get to wait and see what happens...
I don't know, I told FI that it was up to him to fingure out if he wanted to keep it or if he wanted to get me something else. It was the wrongs size anyway so at the very least it needs resized. I know he has been talking to the company that we got it from about trading it for something else but I haven't really tired to figure out what he decided to do. So I guess this time it really will be a surprise :)
It totally doesn't look like a promise ring...it's beautiful! I would tell him you like it - maybe he just is worried you wouldn't like it?
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