My Rollercoaster

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
2016 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

WhiteRose07:  Have you asked what he’s waiting for? That would push me into pissed off territory and its been a few months since?? Arrg that stinks. I hope your waiting days are nearly over :-/ I couldn’t take that kind of waiting.

Post # 4
3505 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

WhiteRose07:  Communicate your feelings with him. It sounds like he intends to propose, he probably just wants to make sure it is perfect. If he knew how unhappy the waiting was making you, he would probably be more likely to get his fingers out of his ass and do something or at least give you a timeframe.

Post # 5
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Do you think maybe he realized you found out about the proposal and he decided to change when he does it because he wants it to be a surprise?

(Although, I don’t think men realize just how much the waiting drives us crazy because once we find out something like that, there is no forgetting about it. At. All.)

Post # 8
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think u should mention the receipt. Casually of course and see what it was about cause and im not putting ideas into your head so dont read into this. But it could have been for someone else. Ask

Post # 10
2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Could finances be a factor? He’s gotten your grandad’s stone & talks about marriage and kids so I’d say he’s planning to propose, not just stall tactics. But is it possible having the ring made is taking longer/ costing more than he initially thought it would? The receipt you found could have been a deposit and he may already be feeling bad he couldn’t have it ready in time. I know it’s easier to tell someone else to wait than it is to wait ourselves, but I’d wait at least a few more months before bringing it up again, he may very well be planning something quite soon. Maybe set a tentative date in your mind that if you don’t have a proposal by such-and-such date (after the holidays? after Valentine’s?), then you’ll tell him how confused you feel that he planned on proposing but still hasn’t and that you have the right to at least know why.

Post # 11
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

WhiteRose07: ok, that wouldn’t fly with me at all. I have lots of girlfriends who spent years of their 20s with guys who were just waiting for the right time. They break up and he’s with someone new in months. If she were the right girl, just not the right time, how can he move on so quickly?

Just no from me, but you know your relationship, so and how much time you’re willing to invest. 

Post # 13
1536 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

If he is a perfectionist, I think he would want everything, the ring, the time, the place to be perfect when he proposes. I am sure everything will align and he will pop the question 🙂

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