Post # 1
Hello human beans, i’m new here! I’ve read some roommate stories here so it seems that it’s appropriate to share non-wedding related issues. MY problem is that I found a roommate via craiglist to share a room in NYC, right now i’m in NEw England for the summer but I go to school in Manhattan.
Problem: I accepted to live there based on the cheap price of the room (can’t afford anything higher than her and her place is cheap!!)
I had a good friend check out thr house and he paid her the rent for August, but there’s not written agreement because she said the landlord illegally rents to tenants in his house. So the room is very small! Like around around 8×8 and she agreed to get rid of her king-sized bed for a bunk bed.
She told me to upload her bed on craiglist so she could sell it for $40-50 and I said she could probably get more than that for it. However I think I created a problem when I suggested she get a loft-bed so that I could get a futon which I would then be able to keep when I move it. She was not ok with that. I said fine, can we get a futon bunkbed (because we have no living room) and she said everything was overpriced and she can’t afford it.
Thing, up until two days ago she insisted we get a bunk bed, then she said she wants a completely new bunkbed which neither of has money for, she was unwilling to even buy a used frame and when I tried to talk to her about it I overhead a friend telling her that I should get my own furniture and deal with it. She’s a immigrant from Nepal so we have some communication problems but her friend was speaking in Urdu, I language that fluently understand (I guess they don’t know I do). But I heard the other girl say that there’s no reason my roomate should accomadate for me, and that I should get my own furniture.
So now she’s saying she wants to keep the king-sized bed, that she’d take measurements and see what kind of a bed i’ll be able to fit in. I’m ok with getting a futon but the thing is it probably won’t fit in the room! I paid her money with that agreement that we would get a bunkbed and now she’s flaking out on me. When I texted to her that the beds probably won’t fit and we should try to figure out a solution she replied saying that “We’re not cofortable with each other” and that I can stay here for a nother month to see if I can but I can definitely move after. Because this is complicated.
Please help, this has all happened within the span of two days and everytime I’ve tried to talk to her she tells me she’s at work or she had finals (she’s a nursing student so I completely understand). But i’m at a loss as to what I should do, I could as her for my money back because she broke a verbal agreement but I know that I will NOT be able to afford anything else should I just suck it up? :/
Post # 3
I’m so sorry. Tell her she needs to give you your money back and you will find somewher else to live. Don’t deal with all of this, that’s dumb. If she refuses to give you back your money, I suggest you have a lawyer write her a letter and report it as fraud. I know this goes without saying, but next time DON’T GIVE ANYONE YOUR MONEY WITHOUT A WRITTEN AGREEMENT. Even if it’s only a basic roommate agreement. Seriously. I’m sorry, we all want to assume the best in people but in reality a lot of people really suck.
Post # 4
@Nido: I’m a little confused. A king size bed in an 8X8 room? That leaves less than 2 feet on either side of the bed and less than 4 ft between the bed and the door, assuming the bed is up against one wall. No, there is absolutely no room for another bed. Unless you underestimated the room size. You should never give money to anyone without something in writing, especially in NYC. Regardless of whether or not she gives your money back or you can afford it there doesn’t seem to be any possible way for you to get a bed in that room, so I don’t see how you could stay there. You need to search for a new roommate ASAP and get that agreement in writing.
ETA: You might have to suck it up and move out of Manhattan. My sister rents in Astoria for far less than she ever paid in Manhattan. You gotta do what you gotta do.
Post # 5
Well I’ve texted her and she said that “she isnt going to break her promise” so if anything i can give her a month to get rid of the bed, and have that in written agreement. The money for rent was expressly written about via texts too so if it has to reach to a legal level those should be of some use.
Honestly I shouldn’t have to deal with but I will for the life of me have to drop some classes etc just to house myself. Thanks for your reply!
Post # 6
That estimation is from my friend who likened it to the size of my kitchen, so i measured my kitchen. From the pictures it seems that from the bed onwards there’s a space of 4 feet.
I am renting in Astoria for the miraculous price of $325, but I suppose that the flakey roommate was the cost of it.
Post # 7
So here’s your main problem (and it has nothing to do with the bed), you cannot enter into an agreement that you expect to be legally binding when the overarching agreement was illegal.
In other words, you gave this girl money to rent an apartment when you knew it was an illegal rental situation. Then you are threatening to go to court to make them uphold your verbal agreement. In the eyes of the law, this is the equivalent of asking the court to get your money back from your drug dealer because they didn’t deliver your pot.
So, I think you have to chalk this up to a lesson learned. The reason there are laws and contracts in this country is so that they are enforceable. Find a legal apartment/roommate situation that you can afford, and get everything in writing.
ETA: Just for the record, I’m not a lawyer. I’m a landlord, and I love Judge Judy 🙂