Post # 1
My fiancé and I have been living with one of his friends (lets call him P) for about 2 months, but we have been paying rent here for over 6 months. Recently, one of our old roommates moved out, and a new one moved it ( we will call him Z).
Before Z moved in, P HATED our last roommate, and treated him like shit until he finally got fed up and moved out. Now that Z has moved in, P is doing the same damn thing to us, and so is Z. Both P and Z plan on moving in with us to a larger house, where FI and my name will be on the lease. With the way they are acting, I don’t want them even visiting the house.
I have literally been doing every dish in the house since I moved in, for 4 people. I clean the house, take care of P’s dog, and they are treating me like shit.
What can I do? FI won’t let me explode on them, but I feel its coming soon. (I had a mini explosion last week, So its only a matter of time before I go ape shit. Especially after all the hurt feelings of FI’s that I have to console.
ETA: P’s name is on the lease currently, in Dec, we supposedly will all be moving to a larger house (My FMIL old house) and FI and my name will be on the lease.
Post # 3
People can only take advantage of you to the extent that you let them.
If they won’t share in the chores, get your own place and do not have roommmates.
Post # 4
If your name is on the lease, then you can take control and make it clear what is acceptable and what isn’t. Without their names on that lease, they have no say on who stays or goes in the apartment. If they are mistreating you, threaten to evicte them. Look in to rental rights in your area so that you are informed.
That, or be honest with your roommates. Tell them how horrible they are treating you and set up some rules. Or move out on your own.
Post # 5
Get a cleaning lady. Make everyone split it evenly and therefore NO ONE will feel crappy about it. We have a cleaning lady; best money we’ve ever spent to deal with getting rid of potential fights and angry feelings!
Post # 6
IMHO, youand your FI need to get your own place. I think having roomates is fine as long as you are all getting along, but oce it starts being stressful etc., it’s best to just move on.
Post # 7
Move into the house or a smaller apartment without them, it’s not worth your mental health to be living with ungrateful jerks.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Don’t let them move into the new house with you. If you can’t afford it like that, either find new roommates or get a smaller place that the two of you can afford to live in together ALONE!!
Post # 9
I will never understand a grown, engaged/married couple having roomates. Maybe it’s just because in my geographical area, people don’t too often take roomates. I would rather live in a tiny basement apartment with DH than to share our living space with others.