(Closed) My rude-ass professors!!

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yeah, I don’t know. If a professor said that to me I’d probably say “Don’t worry, I’m not paying this school thousands of dollars for a Mrs. degree.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What a bitch.  Also, I just finished med school, and several of my classmates got engaged or married during that time.  Occasionally there would be a professor/attending (usually a man) who thought that worrying about a wedding would impact their schoolwork, but having a support system at home is really the best thing you can possibly have for getting through med school.  So ignore your awful professor, enjoy being engaged, and good luck.  Also, at least from my experience, the break between 1st and 2nd year is a way more convenient time to get married than 2nd and 3rd (when you’re taking Step 1 and then only have a little time before clinicals).  Just my advice.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsCajun: Don’t let her get to you. Maybe she is one of those Bitter Betty’s whose relationships never worked out? I have a couple of older people in my life like that too, but I just ignore them. I know what is best for me, and I know that just because I get married doesn’t mean that I am no longer the same person. I know how negative people are annoying and suck, so vent away sister 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

From a slightly different perspective…maybe she was just nervous if she is aware that your grades suffered before due to a relationship? Obviously I am assuming that your relationship with your fiance is different of the one you had with your ex or you wouldn’t be marrying him but I can see how she may be worried just the same. It sounds like she cares about you and your future and just came across in a very rude way.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MrsCajun: wow! that’s unbelieveable! I would be sooo mad too! I have no idea what I would have said. (probably nothing cause I’m one of those people who takes three days to come up with comebacks)

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

As a soon-to-be-professor myself, I can assure you that what she said was completely, 100% inappropriate and out of line.  I would NEVER say something like that to a student. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

holy crap that’s f’d up!! My professors are actually coming to the wedding, and the ones who can’t have already given gifts. it’s totally thoughtful of them! They are very encouraging, even when I told them that I’m not going straight for my PhD after I graduate, even though they encouraged me to.

I think anybody that would say that to you is either jaded or jealous. What a heinous bitch!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Um, yeah, that’s really inappropriate.  In my department, saying something like that would get you a lecture from the department chair.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ugh! Makes me grateful for my academic advisor. She was like, “OH MY GOODNESS WHAT A BEAUTIFUL RING!” during one of my advising sessions. She was married young and it didn’t work out, but at least she realizes that that was HER relationship and not mine!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh, I’ve heard similar- not from professors thankfully. Usually I’ll get an awkward “congrats” from them and a shuffle off, then “Well, I would never get married in college” from classmates. Unfortunately I go to a college that is known for girls attending to get their Mrs degree (why pay 35+ a year is rediculous).

There’s an assumption that once you’re married you’re going to start having babies and giving up any idea of a career- not that you can’t do one or both but being married puts you on a path that does not include upper education or career.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh, ignore her.

I agree with Miss OBG – after first year, when you have a real summer, is probs a better time than after second.  Studying for boards is a mess and I can’t imagine having to have planned a wedding in that time!  That said, I’m getting married at the beginning of 4th year which is also crazy so it’s doable if you want to.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I can’t stand people like that. I’ve seen so many wives, mothers, fathers, and husbands go to get their MD/JD/PhD. Most of them had the highest grades in the class. Don’t mind her, she doesn’t know it all. 🙂 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am pretty close with my family’s Dr. Her and her husband both went to med school together and got married WHILE in med school. Now they have one of the best offices in my area and teach. Amazing ppl and they made it through. Even teachers dont know everything.

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