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Bachelorette Party -- Where are you going?

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posted 2 years ago in Parties

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luckyyou March 20, 2010 Philadelphia, PA

I feel so bad being so upset about this, but I just can't help it.

I want to preface this whole thing by saying that I have the best Matron and Maid of Honor in the world - without her and the combined efforts of my mom and FMIL, I wouldn't even be having one. I love them all dearly, and I am really grateful for all their efforts in making the shower and my wedding as a whole something great and special.

I am sad though, that not all of my bridal party is coming. It's the weekend before the wedding and at least 3 hours away for some, so I understand if the travel is the the problem. That's not what I'm upset about. I'm upset that 2 of my bridesmaids - two people I used to live with and I thought were some of my closest friends - would rather hang out together and have a party than be there for me. I haven't asked anything of them besides asking them to just to come to the bachelorette and the bridal shower. I don't have a lot of friends really anymore since we've all moved away, and having them there would have meant so much.

I feel so dumb being so upset about something this small, and maybe its just because the wedding is less than 2 weeks away and I'm starting to stress, but I can't help it. And I can't really talk to anyone about how upset I am because I don't want to make anyone feel bad.

I guess this is just more of a vent/release than anything else... I just had to get it out.

2 years ago

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Goldilocks1107 September 2010 Madison, WI

I hope you're feeling better. And that does suck (I'm guessing the shower is tomorrow?). Maybe they're feeling wedding-ed out and need to shake loose before your big day?

2 years ago

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Tulip61110 June 11, 2010 Philadelphia

Yeah, I agree with Goldilocks. Maybe they feel like they have been focusing too much on the wedding. I do think that 3 hours is pretty far to travel, especially since they will be travelling that a week later for your wedding. I'm sorry you're upset, there will be others there for you at your shower!

2 years ago

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Blueshoes2 June 2010 PA

I'm sorry you're stressing. I'm a tiny bit sad that my whole bridal party won't be here for my shower and bachelorette... but they're both out of state. I understand why they can't justify the expense, but it's sad none the less, you know? It's probably sad for them too, but traveling is expensive, and I totally get that.

Don't feel dumb about being upset, it's totally normal to wish all of your friends could celebrate with you. I'm sure you'll still have a wonderful time with your local friends!

2 years ago