Post # 1
I have a sister getting married 4 months after me. We’re each other’s Maid/Matron of Honor, so obviously we’re talking a lot of wedding right now. She’s one of those people that’s smart in some ways but really stupid in others.
I’m getting married on a Friday the 13th. I live near Port Dover, Ontario, and on Friday the 13th they have huge congregations of bikers, especially Harley riders, that meet there and have a giant party for a day. One of my guests keeps telling me how she’s not sure if she’ll make it to my wedding because she really wants to go to Dover. I was venting to my sis about this and she started telling me about how people keep telling her that they may not make her wedding because she’s getting married on the first weekend of our university’s exam week. She does not see at all how those are completely different. Myself and her two bridesmaids all go to this school and we sat her down and talked to her about her wedding ages ago, because none of us know if we’ll make it or not. She says that it’s really important to her that she get married that day so that she’ll have a full two weeks for a honeymoon, and that if we don’t care enough to get there (we won’t have a choice if we have exams!) then we’re not being good friends.
Meanwhile, she thinks we’re stupid insisting on a Friday the 13th, when that’s actually sentimental for us (our first date was on one). *sigh* She makes me want to pull my hair out.
Post # 3
Going to Dover for Friday the 13th is definitely not an excuse to miss your wedding! They can go any year, it’s not like it’s something that comes around never, it’s every year!
And planning a wedding during exam week (I’m pretty sure you and I actually go to the same school lol, small world) when lots of people involved in the wedding are students is not the best idea. I understand wanting to have your date when you want, but there are practical things to consider and I know that university doesn’t allow you to write the makeup exam just because you are in a wedding. It’s not your fault if you can’t get out of an exam and it’s not fair for her to be blaming you for that!
I’m sorry she’s being difficult and not understanding the hard place she’s putting you in. Hopefully she either changes her mind or you don’t have an exam!
Post # 4
oooof those are two totally different things! sorry she can’t seem to see past her own perspective =/
Post # 5
Seriously if people want to go to Dover on the 13th instead of your wedding I say let them go! That to me is RIDICULOUS and they obviously don’t care about your wedding too much.
As far as exam week, I think your sister is being selfish! I think I am doing a PhD at the same Uni also and December exam period is stressful. The Dean’s office takes the finals (for half term courses) really seriously and you will have to go through the Dean if you need to write a make-up exam. Could she not make it a week after the exam period or even a week before?
I think you really need to let her know that you can’t give her your full attention and time that you want to give her and she deserves if it is that close to all of your exams. How are you going to be able to have fun if you have 5 exams the following week?
Post # 6
By the way are you getting married in Dover or London? If it’s London do you mind sharing where?
My reception is going to be at the Delta London Armouries!
Post # 7
That is kind of annoying, because they are similar situations. I will say that in my opinion the exam week this is a bigger deal than going to Dover. Like summerlove22 said, your guests can go to Dover every year, so if people chose that over your wedding than they probably are not people who really want to be there for you. I would just ignore her and let her think what she wants. At the end of the day it’s her wedding, and your wedding, so you guys can each do what you want to do.
Post # 8
Sorry for getting off track but FutureMrs.Martin- The Armouries is gorgeous! I was there a month ago for an event and everything is so nice! Such a great wedding venue! 🙂
Post # 9
@Summerlove – Awe thanks!!!! I am really excited about it and actually I get that response from EVERYONE I mention it to in London 😀
– are you getting married in London?
Post # 10
Boy, we have a lot of Ontario brides on here. Funny, since it’s on a general board. 😛 I’m glad you ladies understand. It’s so frustrating sometimes. Also, the annoying guest that wants to go to Dover is my AUNT and is the only one of my aunts and uncles that I invited.
@FutureMrsMartin, that Armouries are so pretty! 🙂 I’m getting married at my grandma’s (the family farm) which is near St. Thomas. So we’re not THAT close to Dover, but close enough that my aunt likes to take the opportunity.
Post # 11
If you guys are all going to the same uni I am think of then it is very silly to get married during exam week (it is one of the top unis in the country!) And yeah, exam week vs biker rally is a bit different. Maybe it is just your sister realizing that maybe that it wasn’t such a good idea to plan her wedding for the first week of exams and she is just taking her fustration out that way.
p.s: I am originally from Ont, but I don’t live there now.