- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Background: My sister and my Mother-In-Law work for the same company. They work out of town and are away for extended periods of time together.
Last week at my birthday dinner, both sides of our family were there. My mom got stuck at the end of the table with nobody sitting across from her, and just my husband sitting next to her. My Mother-In-Law saw my mom “whispering” to my husband and assumed it was about my BIL’s new girlfriend who was sitting down the table. Don’t ask me how she came to this conclusion.
Anyway, when my Mother-In-Law and sister were having dinner at work a few days ago, my Mother-In-Law started gossiping about my mom, how my mom was being so rude at dinner by talking about BIL’s new gf (which was not true, I later found out she was plotting for the wait staff to sing me happy birthday) amongst other things that she doesn’t like about my mom.
1) why are you gossiping about my mom in front of one of her daughters?
2) why are you assuming my mom is whispering about BIL’s gf, when the gf is right across the table? My mom is the least judgemental person I know.
So tonight I couldn’t keep it any anymore and stupidly told my husband. He’s usually so passive about family issues, so I didn’t think he would say anything. But all of a sudden he exploded, said he was sick of his mom being rude and immediately called his mom and asked her why she was making up rumours about my mom.
He had her on speaker phone and she really had no answer, and brushed it off. She probably was not expecting to ever get called out, especially by him.
Long story short, Mother-In-Law is now upset at my sister for telling me, my sister is very mad at me for telling my husband, and my sister is also upset with my husband for telling his mom. She said that my Mother-In-Law won’t even look at her and is avoiding her and now feels very awkward.
They’re both coming home tomorrow, and I have no idea how to handle this. I feel bad that everyone is upset, but I feel like it had to be said…especially since it’s my poor mom who’s getting accused of things, and she has absolutely no idea any of this has even gone on.
What is your take on this? Would you have handled it differently?