(Closed) My sister and the tattoo dilemma…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it better to wait 18 months to not incur the wrath of the bride?
    Yes, just wait. It's not worth it. : (14 votes)
    13 %
    No, get your tattoo now! : (91 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    954 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    ZebraPrintMe:  I’m really not a tattoo person at all, but I think if it’s something you really want then 18 months is wayyyy to long to wait just for someone elses wedding. I’d say go for it!

    Post # 3
    Member
    3341 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would just go for it. She is being ridiculous!

    Post # 4
    Member
    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    I can’t see how getting a tattoo affects your BM role, even if it’s visible.  And this comes from someone who doesn’t like tattoos and would never get one.  I voted for you to get it now.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    If you don’t want to wait, then don’t wait.  Your sister is way out of line.  The bride gets to decide on things like bridesmaid dress colors, shoes, and makeup…not tattoos.

    I really like your tattoo idea, BTW.  Pretty designs!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    She is being completely unreasonable. 18 months is too long to make someone else wait on something personal like a tattoo, especially when you want to have it on your ankle, which is not very conspicuous. Why is she so against you getting a tattoo if she already has her own that will be showing for the wedding?  

    Post # 8
    Member
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    ZebraPrintMe:  If it were a month to wait maybe I’d view it differently. But she’s already made you wait for 2-3 years and now wants you to wait another 1.5 . . . that is just too controlling of her. 

    I say get what you want . . . she can decide to do long BM dresses, or not have you as a bridesmaid, or have the photographer photoshop the tattoo out of a few of the pictures. Or have you pose in the pictures in a way that doesn’t show the tattoo. 

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    3085 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Virmond Park

    ZebraPrintMe:  =-O that is insane. for the record I have 1 tattoo and my sister has 13. I believe after deciding you want a tattoo and choosing a design to wait a year and see if you still want it, but she is being completely unreasonable. get it. she can deal with it like a woman.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6644 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

     

    Oh hell no I wouldn’t be waiting. Screw her, your body your choice

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    ZebraPrintMe:  I say do it.  It’s far enough away that it will be completely healed and you can get amazing tattoo cover up/concealer now.  (Have you seen the Kat Von D before/after pictures).  Your sister is being unreasonable.  If you were talking about getting a tattoo 3 days before her wedding that would be scabby and not so nice looking I could understand but you’re totally fine 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    1072 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    There is no way that you should let your sister dictate what you do with your body for 3+ years. That is ridiculous. If she really doesn’t like it in her photos, she can use Photoshop to get rid of it. Either way, not your problem.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2166 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    ZebraPrintMe:  If you haven’t already, search google for tattoo cover up before and after and show them to your sister….there are some incredible cover up photos!  You can’t even tell, and for a small tattoo on your ankle absolutely no one will notice and the photos won’t show it at all.  Your sister needs to take a chill pill.  This is a wedding day, not an excuse to be a control freak about other people’s lives.

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I know this isn’t your question, but… if within a year you’ve changed your mind about what you want your tattoo to look like, you need to wait longer before getting it.  Laser removal is expensive and painful. Regardless of your sister’s timeline, you need to be sure of a design before you get it.  I recommend printing out a picture and hanging it somewhere in your home that you will see multiple times per day.  If you still like it after several months, then you should consider getting it.

    As for your sister’s wedding, I think she’s being ridiculous.  You can easily cover it up if it bothers her that much, though I don’t think you should have to.

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