My sister hates her dress :( what do I do?????

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is a tough one. As someone who has suffered from body dismorphia, when you see those things in yourself it’s almost impossible for anyone to talk you out of it. Has she tried it on with hair and make-up done? Or with her accessories? Maybe the full look will help her feel better.

If it’s any consolation, I’m a wedding photographer and I’ve never seen a bride who didn’t look absolutely stunning.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Just be supoportive. That’s all you can do. But it’s hard. Good luck to you and your sister.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@omg:  I have no suggestions or advice but high-five to you for being a seriously awesome sister!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Is she having a hair/makeup trial? If not, maybe you could take her for one…even if it’s just a fun thing that isn’t what she’s planning to look like, it will shift the focus from the dress to how beautiful SHE is or can be.

I just noticed someone before me suggested the  makeup/hair thing, too. I know that I feel a LOT better about myself when my hair and skin look their best, regardless of how I think my clothes look.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@omg:  I agree with @Mrs_Sailor….has she already had her hair and makeup trial?  It might help her to see the whole picture; hair, makeup, accesories…also, is the dress really blingy or is it simple?  Maybe it would help to try and find a sparkly belt or big flower to pin onto it?

The best thing that you can do is what you’re already doing- be there for her, go to other stores with her, and keep telling her she looks beautiful!  If she truly doesn’t see it, it is likely not going to be easy to get her to change her thinking.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@omg:  She’s just in need of some serious reassurance. I would just keep telling her how great she looks in it and maybe even discuss her disappointment with her friends so they can also let her know how great she looks in it. She may also just be projecting her wedding stress onto the dress. Maybe take her out for a spa day or something to get her mind off the wedding. There’s nothing else to be done since the wedding is in 8 days. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

Post a picture of her in her dress, then show her the replies of hundreds of strangers who say she is beautiful.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Really not much you can do you have done everything! you can

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