Post # 1
I thought I would share this just as a heads up to all future brides out there because I honestly thought that no one was this stupid…
To start it off my 18 year old sister was not invited to this wedding but her friends mother invited her to come to the reception with her – that right there is enough to make me grind my teeth thinking of people bringing extra guests who don’t know the couple at all.
Then she starts nagging my mother to go and buy her some alcohol to bring to the reception with her, this is where is gets ridiculous. My mother of course refused to purchase her anything because this is a public event and she is underage. We thought a crisis was avoided but we found out that on the way the friends mother bought them a few bottles of flavoured vodka to bring in. Yes, teenage girls bringing their own booze to a wedding.
I am just speechless at this point as I cannot imagine the mess they will cause if they are caught. First off I booked the same venue so I know the contract requires you either purchase insurance plus a permit to serve alcohol plus pay a full day rental cost OR you can pay the reduced rate with no alcohol. I don’t know if they are serving it or not but they’ll be charged about $500 if they find alcohol was consumed at the event, if they went the permit route they are only allowed so much alcohol PLUS they aren’t allowed to serve to minors.
This really just baffles me because I don’t know how they expect to drink vodka out of the bottle at a wedding! I really wish I could call the police and rat those idiots out but I know that would ruin the reception for the couple. I at least am now aware that I need to be extra vigalent to make sure there are no teens sneaking alcohol bottles into my wedding!
I felt that all bees should be aware that even though it is common sense (and the law) to not do this that people will still do it!
Post # 3
Wow. I have no idea what to say to that. Incredible.
Post # 4
I am more shocked by this woman who is inviting the friend of her child and purchasing the alcohol for them to bring with them. I never knew a wedding reception was a BYOB kind of event! If I seen a single open bottle of alcohol that wasn’t provided regardless of the age of the drinker, I would personally walk over and take the bottle away from them. I wouldn’t risk any additional charges or legal trouble for them wanting their own alcohol. It is sad that anyone thinks that it is okay to not only crash the reception but to bring vodka with you when you aren’t even the legal drinking age!
Post # 5
@WeddingBells2014: Whoa! Do you know anyone in the wedding party who you could give a heads up? Inviting an extra guest is bad but landing an unsuspecting couple with hundreds of dollars in venue fees and maybe a police presence at their wedding… what a nightmare.
Post # 6
@ElayneRunner: This woman herself has never had the best judgement so the only part that shocks me is that she actually went out and bought alcohol for someone else other than her own child. I tried for several minutes to convince my sister it was inappropriate for her to attend when she wasn’t invited especially since she’ll know no one else there but she of course has a teen mentality of its a party and anyone can go… so glad I know the mindset certain guests may have in terms of appropriatness.
@Bubblesmcgee: This is the thing with my sister not even knowing this couple, I also don’t know them or really anything about their wedding. I really wish that I had seen someone who was at the wedding on facebook so I could tell them to keep an eye out to avoid a disaster. Since this is an older crowd there I know that people won’t hesitate to walk up to them and say something but knowing my sister and her friend (plus the mother) I can easily see a scene being caused for these poor peaple.
Post # 7
This made me ”lol” a little when you mentioned teenage girls of 18 drinking alcohol … here it’s the legal drinking age, you’re an adult at 18 not a teenager, so it made me smile. But yes, it’s the law. I would say however, that the law has its limits in the sense that if we were having dinner with FI’s 16 year old cousin and her parents allowed her to have a glass of wine, she could.
The problem here, is that :
– it’s not true parental consent since it’s not your mother allowing her to have a glass of wine under her supervision at home, it’s an adult providing underage people hard liquor to drink in a public place. It’s illegal.
– there are usually rules in venues, restaurants and other places that prohibit bringing alcohol that’s not provided by them. You can get a fine. Whatever the drinker’s age, it’s not allowed. Same goes for my venue, if my uncle is caught drinking beer in the parking, he’s being kicked out and handled a fine (well, we’d have a fine because of him and we would be pissed).
I guess the only thing you can do if you don’t know anyone from the wedding is to tell your mother what this woman is allowing your sister to do. Either your mother can do something and dissuade your sister to do something that stupide, either she makes your sister understand she might call the police on them and well, don’t bother call me when you’re at the police station. I know my parents would not have ignored this if it happened. There’s not much you can do to ”physically” keep her from going there, but surely you can let your mother know what this mom is doing crashing another wedding and doing illegal things.
Post # 8
God, what a mess.
If you have the same venue booked, can you at least alert the venue?? Or ask the venue for the contact name/info for the couple who are booked on that day…and try to sqlech this before the Sh* hits the fan?? I would want them to give them a heads up that someone is supplying minors with alcohol at their wedding…because otherwise the couple could get in So.Much.Trouble if the minors are caught with alochol in their systems.
I can’t even. Buying two minors alcohol to take to a wedding reception. Unreal.
Post # 9
@NauticalDisaster: For my family there is no issue with drinking at 18 even though the legal age is 19 here, there is just of course a time and a place for it. Even if she was 30 it’d still be one of those things that you just shake your head at.
There certainly are rules and fines in place for anyone bringing their own alcohol into the event if they are caught, considering there is underage drinking it is also a police issue on top of this. I showed my mother the contract that I had with the venue that mentions alcohol consumption on the premises which of course makes her worry that my sister will put this couple in violation of their contract. She also knows that any fines that the couple gets will be passed onto her to pay.
If the reception hadn’t already had started she would’ve forbade my sister from going. Even after a text battle between the two of them it is clear that my sister has no concept of the law as “everyone will be doing it” and if she followed the law she wouldn’t have any fun at the reception. But luckily since she is 18 my mother has decided to let her deal with all consequences of it, even if she calls in a couple hours stranded in town because she got kicked out she’ll be on her own to get home.
Post # 10
@PeachSnapple: Thing is that the reception is happening right now and I know that venue staff are not in the office over the weekends, only the serving/setup staff show up for weddings. I had called earlier just to see if someone would pick up and I got the voicemail so the police would be the only others I could call and notify about this.
I just feel SO bad for this couple if my sister and her friend get caught with their booze!
Post # 11
@WeddingBells2014: Wow. Just, wow. Why is the woman hell bent on taking an 18 year old girl to a stranger’s wedding? It’s not really a free for all party, it’s usually a sit down meal with speeches – not a rave. I wouldn’t have thought this would be too appealing to a teenager unless she actually knew the couple? That woman sounds really irresponsible, inviting a teenager, supplying alcohol to a minor…what a way to behave at a wedding where usually, couples have to be a bit selective of who they invite because they just don’t have the budget to invite everyone they’d like to. Can you give the bride and groom a heads up about it?
Post # 12
There are so many things wrong with that situation.
Post # 13
I do have an update to this fiasco.
She turned up to the wedding with her friend+mother PLUS 2 other teenagers who were not invited to the wedding. Everything went good into the first hour of the reception until they were getting too loud (when they stopped everything to give some speeches), which brought it to the couples attention that they had crashed the wedding.
The couple had a family member ask my sister and the 2 other girls to leave as they were not invited and that it was very rude of them to be eating from the buffet that was for the invited guests. This then of course led to a scene of “you can’t tell me what to do, this is a free country” which then gave them cause to call the police and be driven home.
Since the bottles of vodka were still in the mothers bag and sealed there wasn’t an issue with that but if they had actually opened them the police said charges would’ve been laid against my sister plus the mother and her name would’ve been in the paper over it. They said the couple currently doesn’t want to press charges for tresspassing even though they could’ve due to the scene they caused.
After watching my mother fight with her for the better part of an hour, my sister apparently thought that a wedding reception was like a big dance party where everyone dances to loud music and drinks – she apparently planned on staying there until 1am!
This has certainly given me a lot to think about when planning out my guest list and making sure any questionable guests are clear on our guest/alcohol rules.