My sister just got engaged and picked a date two weeks after mine!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You get one day. She didn’t choose your day, she chose another day. Remember, this is a special day for her, too. I think you need to relax and plan your day and not worry about hers.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

First, I would be pissed. Second, I would cry and eat a lot of ice cream. Last, I would be an adult and discuss it. If she doesn’t want to possibly move her date, maybe this is a good time to explore the possibility of having a small, intimate DW?

 

Post # 5
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872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That’s not cool to make people family members/family friends travel that close together. Since this is your own sister I would go full bridezilla. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

imagine how she feels, if she’s not trying to steal your thunder, she’s probably really upset that you’re not happy for her and it only makes you look selfish for expecting everyone to only think of you for however long the engagement is. on your big day (hopefully) you will be able to focus on what really matters

just trying to play devils advocate, as I was on the other side of a similar situation but our weddings weren’t as close.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@agdluvstx:  +1

after reading your other thread, you sound like the PERFECT candidate for a DW!! No stress, no guests except the ones you really want… Definitely something to consider! After you cry and eat ice cream, of course 🙂

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Also, you should definitely not be angry after step one and two! It’s her special day, and I’m sure she’s just as excited to get married. Be supportive, help her shop and plan, but take time for yourself too 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

what’s exactly the issue? you won’t even be busy with wedding stuff. the day after your wedding you’re not in the spotlight anymore.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@bebero:  As a long distance relative, I wouldn’t have the money to go to both of these weddings so close to each other…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Chrysoberyl:  since her wedding is not for an entire year, i’m sure relatives who really want to attend will manage to budget.

 

and really, it’s not OP’s issue. she’s not the official budgeter for long distance relatives

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I totally agree with how you’re feeling! Sorry your family isn’t being supportive. While it’s true that you only get one day, this is obviously a huge imposition on all your family – it’s a big commitment to travel to two weddings two weeks apart in the same family. 

Make sure you send invitations/STDs out well before her… 

Post # 14
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m sorry 🙁 

On the bright side…at least she didn’t pick two weeks before you? 

Hugs!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry you’re going though this.  Did she explain why she picked a date that was so close to yours?  I too would be upset – more for putting my family in the position to chose.  Not everyone can get multiple weeks off from work, even years in advance and all of my family is out of state.   Yes, I would be upset too.  

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow. I just read the other thread. I understand your feelings on this. Your family chose sides over who should be happy during your wedding, and they chose your sister over you. Of course you’d be upset.

I’d honestly second the destination wedding idea, depending on which deposits have been put down…

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