- 4 years ago
I wrote a post 2 weeks ago, a couple of days before my wedding, talking about how my sister let me down about not-helping/being lazy in general/being critical etc, well here’s what happened *AFTER* the wedding:
My last day in NY, the day *AFTER* my wedding, she and I get into a fight.
I don’t fight with her, ever, because the last time we got into a fight, she threw a drinking glass at me, (it ended up hitting my then-boyfriend instead, because he pushed me out of the way. And yes, it broke on him and cut his arm.)
So yeah, I don’t EVER fight/disagree with her, because she’s NUTS. She goes from 0-10 in less than a second and screams bloody murder like a damn psycho.
So.. come with me on the journey of what happened…
The whole week leading up to my wedding, she’s picking fights with my parents.
Granted, they were mean parents…they weren’t supportive, and they called us names, etc etc…. but they’re 70 years old now, my dad can barely breathe, and my mom cant walk…. Why hold onto the crap that happened 20+ years ago?
So instead… my sister argues. Every.single.word. that comes out of my mom or dad’s mouth, is an invitation for my sister to fight.
Whether they’re just chatting about the news on TV, a movie, the weather, ANYTHING!!, my sister kept JUMPING them and arguing (one time she did it in the middle of a restaurant. it was very embarrassing.)
So the last day I’m there, I cant take it anymore. She’s been stressing me out all week, so in the middle of one of her rants, I cut her off and say “STOP; why are you fighting with mom about how much waitresses are paid?? (that happened to be the topic of that particular fight) Just STOP.” and she took a bag of potato chips (that happen to be in her hands) and yep… you guessed it: threw it at me. I ducked and it hit the window behind me.
And let me tell you: Had that been a tv remote, a book, or even a god damn hammer, it doesnt matter, she would’ve thrown whatever was in her hand, at my head.
Then, she stands up, starts SCREEEEEAMING at me: “WHY DO YOU ALWAYS FIGHT WITH ME?!!???” she repeats this phrase several times.
I, in a calm tone, ask her “what are you talking about? me and you dont fight.” “are you mad at me about something i don’t know about?”
she just keeps SCREEEEAMING “WHY DO YOU FIGHT WITH ME ALL THE TIME?!!”
then she, her husband, and my (now screaming and crying) niece, go into the back room and she slams the door so hard it sounded like the whole house was going to break in half.
Then, 10 mins later, my husband and I had to leave for the airport to catch our flight back home.
And that’s the last time I have spoken to her. This was 2 weeks ago.
Apparently, my mom said the next day, she was “remorseful” …but she hasn’t made any attempt at contacting me.
I just can’t take it anymore. But I feel awful. She’s supposed to be my sister. Sisters fight, sure… but sisters don’t THROW THINGS at each other. And sisters don’t fight like THAT.
Honestly, I am always afraid to disagree with her, because I’m afraid of what she’ll say to me, or do (even over the phone). I’m being very serious. I am afraid of her.
I feel shitty. It was supposed to be my wedding week… not only did she severely let me down in general, but then she went ahead and went psycho on me.
I need a hug. I need a new sister. I need to NOT feel guilty about this, considering I didn’t do anything wrong.
I feel bad for my parents… they don’t deserve to be treated that way. They’re so very weak and sick, and my sister just shreads into them every chance she gets.
I feel sick from the anxiety this has caused. 🙁