Post # 1
I need some opinions! So here’s the story:
I have 2 bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor. I told them all they could order any style of JCrew dress in Navy, silk chiffon. My sister doesn’t have access to the internet so during all of my planning I ordered her 5 different styles to choose from in navy silk chiffon and went to her house with them so she could try them on. She settled on one of them that she said she liked, but she needed a bigger size, so I returned all of them and ordered her the larger size and then i drove that one over to her house and she decided she liked it.
Last week she called me and told me she found a different dress at JCPenney that she liked more and she bought it and is going to wear that one. It’s not silk chiffon and i don’t even know if the navy will match the other two JCrew dresses that my other girls really like. She asked me to return the JCrew dress. I don’t know what to do. I went out of my way to give the girls a choice of any style in navy blue silk chiffon and my sister has the nerve to go out and buy a completely different dress from JCPenney.
Post # 3
@christamarie11: wtf! Tell her no! you went way out of your way for her! Have you even seen this dress???? Why would she act like that??
Post # 4
As politely as possible tell her that was never an option, that you want them all to match and that she needs to stick with her J Crew dress. If you had said “a navy dress” or something, I could see where she’s coming from, but you went out of your way to get her a navy silk chiffon J Crew dress. You can just say something like “Sorry for the misunderstanding but I really do want you to wear the original dress so you all match styles.” It is kind of rude that she did this, but hoepfully if you respond with the benefit of the doubt like that it will avoid drama. I would also ask her if there is a problem with the original dress. Maybe after you went through so much trouble buying and returning the first one, she was embarrassed and didn’t want to let on that she doesn’t like it and hoped this would just get around the problem. I hope it works out; good luck!
Post # 5
I read the title. Thought WHAT?!?!, mad an icky face like I smelled poo, clicked into the post and after reading it I still feel the same way.
Post # 6
I think you were very accommodating letting them choose their own style. I would tell her she needs to either return the JC Penney dress or wear it to something other than your wedding, because it’s a different fabric than what you chose and you’d prefer all the dresses are the same shade and fabric.
Post # 7
Eh! I would be heated. Definitely stick to your guns on Fabric/Color! That was your only requests!
Post # 8
It’s really important that the material is the same if you’re looking for all the colours to look the same in pictures and for everyone to match. I know it’ll be hard, but you have to tell her that she can’t wear that dress. Good luck!
Post # 9
I see the dress first so she can’t say you didn’t give it a chance.. then politely tell her no, it doesn’t go with the other dresses and she will need to wear the one you already bought… that she chose…
Post # 10
It’s already been said. You told her what the choices were, you ordered and delivered the dresses for her to try on, she ended up with one that fit and that she said she liked. Now she wants to trade dresses? Too late sister!!!!!!!! Completely inappropriate behavior.
Post # 11
Tell her no that you would like everyone to have the same “look” and the JcPenny dress won’t work.
Post # 12
Oh boy, would I ever lose it on my sister if she ever did that! Give her two options, wear the JCrew dress and be bridesmaid, or wear the JCPenney dress and come as a guest! You went above and beyond to help her get a dress, you did all the work for her she didn’t even have to leave the house and what she did was just flat out rude!
Post # 13
Tell her no. Seriously, you are being very accomodating and nice but it shouldn’t even be up for discussion. She had absolutely no right to do that.
Post # 14
I would tell her that you are really sorry, but that isn’t an option and she has to wear the dress you already bought her, that she chose in the first place. Remind her that your bridal party is all wearing the JCrew dress in the same fabric and color and she must also.
Post # 15
Just say no. she has to wear the dress she chose out of the Jcrew options.
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
The bride gets to pick the bridesmaids’ dresses. It was very nice of you to give her options, to order the dress for her and to deliver it to her, but that doesn’t mean she can just pick the dress she feels like wearing if it’s not one of the options you gave her. Just tell her no; you let her choose between the J.Crew dresses in a certain color and fabric, and those are the only options.