Post # 1
Originally my sister and brother weren’t coming to Thanksgiving dinner because their dad died Monday morning in a very sad way and no one saw it coming so it was a terrible shock for everyone. Today she let us know her and my brother were both coming to my moms for dinner afterall since the funeral will be Saturday. I really wish I could give her a gift or something nice to cheer her up and let her know were thinking of her but we have no money. Is there anything I could do to make her feel more comfortable at dinner tomorrow? She’s been very very sad and her dad was the only person in the world she had since none of us are close to our mother. I just feel so bad and want to let her know I’m here for her.
Post # 4
I am sorry for your sister and brother. I think you guys just being there and having this moment together would be enough. You can also try to listen, go for a walk.. ? Hope this helped a bit.
Post # 5
There isnt really much that you can do to make it better except be there for her, talk to her. Maybe try keeping her mind of of things maybe run some wedding ideas past her make her feel like shes helping you while you are helping her keep her mind off things
Post # 6
Thanks… I went to her house on monday when we found out but I felt like I was taking up space and didn’t know what to say at all so those ideas help a lot!
Post # 7
@HappilyEverAfter54: ugh Im so sorry! I think she made the right decision by coming and joining the family on the Holiday; she needs the family unity. Do you have something that you really love and has helped you through hard times that you would be willing to pass on to her? Do you have a charm? or a keepsake that she might find uplifting?
I always love baking or maybe you could make her an “Im thinking of you” CD! that just popped in my head! lol
Wish I was better help! Again sorry for the loss. Blessings & Love to her!
Post # 8
Just being there for your sister is what is important. A couple of years ago, my brother and sister’s dad died and I was just there for them in whatever way they needed me. We’re not super super close, but I was there for them when they saw their dad for the last time, and went out for drinks with them afterwards. Just talking to them, hugging them, letting them know that I was there, helped. Gifts are definitely not necessary!
Post # 9
@HappilyEverAfter54: Sorry to hear about the sad news. It’s always difficult to lose a loved one and it seems to become magnified around the holidays. I think the PP’s made some great suggestions. I especially like the idea of going for a walk (if it isn’t too cold where you are). Another idea is to make/bake something for them to eat between now and then, or just send them home with some good leftovers. Being together will be the best thing of all.
Post # 10
Maybe see if you can get a game going. Something to make everyone laugh. Laughter really is the best medicine during times like this.