my SO ACTUALLY cares about the decorating

posted 3 years ago in Home
  • poll: Did you SO/H care about the decoration of the house/apt?
    YES : (72 votes)
    73 %
    NO : (20 votes)
    20 %
    Men actually care??? : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    42135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @nolapeanut:  Yes he cares about our home decor. He moved into my place so we had the opposite situation.

    HOW am I supposed to move in with my things (moving in december officially) and have us not break out into WWIII?

    Both of you behave like adults, discuss your preferences and be prepared to compromise.


    Post # 4
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge

    @nolapeanut:  FI cares and has good taste. However, he’s fine leaving most of the decorating up to me since we like similar looks 🙂

    We have soo much fun changing house decor with the seasons (and of course/ fall and winter are our favorites).

    Maybe spend some time in stores that sell house decor and figure out what types of things you BOTH like? That way, you can start fresh together by picking out some items that speak to both of you.

    Post # 5
    362 posts
    Helper bee

    No he could care less although i know what some of his favorite things are and tried to bring those out while I got rid of some of my more girly things I wasent attached to.  We have very similar style though and like tw same things grnerally but I’m much more particular about arrangement so it works well.  Sounds like you’ll both have to compromise some 

    Post # 6
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He cares in so the fact that it reflects his personality as well. He’s generally fine with whatever as long as it looks good and is not overly femine, which is alright with me since I’m not all that into girly decore either.

    Post # 7
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee

    DH likes to have some input on paint colors and furniture, but other than that I pretty much have free reign in terms of fabrics, pictures/art, themes, etc.

    Post # 7
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee

    ugh, double post

    Post # 9
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @nolapeanut:  My FH follows a lot of architecture/interior design/culture blogs. He absolutely cares about decorating our home, and is much more knowledgeable about trends or mixing textiles that I am. He tends to know the history of pieces, and has scoured various markets to source furniture from his favourite industrial designers. If he had more room, he would probably build or refinish pieces himself. 

    If I had it my way, our condo would be decorated in soft beiges, ivories, blush, light pink, and silver. I’d love a big tufted couch, and my dream is to basically live in Restoration Hardware. In reality, our condo has light gray walls, bold black/white prints, a mixture of masculine textiles (tweeds and wools), and very modern furniture.

    I actually really love that he has such a creative streak, and I’m continually impressed by his design acumen and taste. If I decorated our place, I’m sure it wouldn’t be nearly as magazine worthy, lol.

    Post # 10
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Oh yeah. My FI has strong oppinions about decor.

    Post # 11
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

    My FI hates it when you go to a house and it is clear that the female half has decorated the place. He has very strong opinions about what he likes and he wants the house to represent us equally. He thinks I have terrible taste in furniture and I think he has terrible colour coordination. We manage somehow!

    Post # 12
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @nolapeanut:  he sort of cares but generally let’s me have my way when I disagree. He definitely moves things around when I am not home lol.

    It’s tough movig in to someone else’s house. My advice is start slow and don’t take over making the house the way you want it. Start by just finding a place for your things without changing much of what is there. Then, maybe work with him to fill in places that aren’t really decorated. Then you can start going back and changing the things that were already there. This worked well for us when I moved into my husbands house.

    Post # 13
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes! Ugh! And he has terrible taste! 

    Post # 14
    8388 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My husband cares now that we have our own house, however when we were renting he couldn’t care less.

    Post # 15
    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    FI cares to an extent about the decorating, but for the most part we agree and have similar tastes so he kinda leaves it up to me. I let him put all his nerdy posters in the livingroom and our bedroom is full of my picture collages.

    Post # 16
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @julies1949:  This.

    Of course my DH has preferences–most men do. We moved into an apartment at the same time and decorated it together. A lot of stuff was mine from my old place, but it was stuff that he was fine with. When we registered, I chose things that I knew that he would like. 

    Our biggest fight has been over the throw pillows that came with our couch. I think they’re hideous and don’t go with anything, and he argues that they go with the couch. Ugh.

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