Post # 1
ive never heard of this in my entire life..he actually puts up a fight when I make a decorating suggestion.
Do yall’s SO/H’s care?
I know men have their things they like, and thats good, so we dont take them down or change them, but HOW am I supposed to move in with my things (moving in december officially) and have us not break out into WWIII?
Please help! Did your husband/SO care when you moved in/moved intogether about the general “look” of the house/apt?
Post # 3
@nolapeanut: Yes he cares about our home decor. He moved into my place so we had the opposite situation.
HOW am I supposed to move in with my things (moving in december officially) and have us not break out into WWIII?
Both of you behave like adults, discuss your preferences and be prepared to compromise.
Post # 4
@nolapeanut: FI cares and has good taste. However, he’s fine leaving most of the decorating up to me since we like similar looks 🙂
We have soo much fun changing house decor with the seasons (and of course/ fall and winter are our favorites).
Maybe spend some time in stores that sell house decor and figure out what types of things you BOTH like? That way, you can start fresh together by picking out some items that speak to both of you.
Post # 5
No he could care less although i know what some of his favorite things are and tried to bring those out while I got rid of some of my more girly things I wasent attached to. We have very similar style though and like tw same things grnerally but I’m much more particular about arrangement so it works well. Sounds like you’ll both have to compromise some
Post # 6
He cares in so the fact that it reflects his personality as well. He’s generally fine with whatever as long as it looks good and is not overly femine, which is alright with me since I’m not all that into girly decore either.
Post # 7
DH likes to have some input on paint colors and furniture, but other than that I pretty much have free reign in terms of fabrics, pictures/art, themes, etc.
Post # 9
@nolapeanut: My FH follows a lot of architecture/interior design/culture blogs. He absolutely cares about decorating our home, and is much more knowledgeable about trends or mixing textiles that I am. He tends to know the history of pieces, and has scoured various markets to source furniture from his favourite industrial designers. If he had more room, he would probably build or refinish pieces himself.
If I had it my way, our condo would be decorated in soft beiges, ivories, blush, light pink, and silver. I’d love a big tufted couch, and my dream is to basically live in Restoration Hardware. In reality, our condo has light gray walls, bold black/white prints, a mixture of masculine textiles (tweeds and wools), and very modern furniture.
I actually really love that he has such a creative streak, and I’m continually impressed by his design acumen and taste. If I decorated our place, I’m sure it wouldn’t be nearly as magazine worthy, lol.
Post # 10
Oh yeah. My FI has strong oppinions about decor.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
My FI hates it when you go to a house and it is clear that the female half has decorated the place. He has very strong opinions about what he likes and he wants the house to represent us equally. He thinks I have terrible taste in furniture and I think he has terrible colour coordination. We manage somehow!
Post # 12
@nolapeanut: he sort of cares but generally let’s me have my way when I disagree. He definitely moves things around when I am not home lol.
It’s tough movig in to someone else’s house. My advice is start slow and don’t take over making the house the way you want it. Start by just finding a place for your things without changing much of what is there. Then, maybe work with him to fill in places that aren’t really decorated. Then you can start going back and changing the things that were already there. This worked well for us when I moved into my husbands house.
Post # 13
Yes! Ugh! And he has terrible taste!
Post # 14
My husband cares now that we have our own house, however when we were renting he couldn’t care less.
Post # 15
FI cares to an extent about the decorating, but for the most part we agree and have similar tastes so he kinda leaves it up to me. I let him put all his nerdy posters in the livingroom and our bedroom is full of my picture collages.
Post # 16
Of course my DH has preferences–most men do. We moved into an apartment at the same time and decorated it together. A lot of stuff was mine from my old place, but it was stuff that he was fine with. When we registered, I chose things that I knew that he would like.
Our biggest fight has been over the throw pillows that came with our couch. I think they’re hideous and don’t go with anything, and he argues that they go with the couch. Ugh.