Post # 1
When my SO and I first decided that marriage was in the not-so-distant future for us, our idea of *OMG FUN* shifted a bit for us. This new, subdued vision didn’t pose a single problem for me, socially. I have had my share of wild, wild times (shoot, I was in a sorority in college, need I say more?), and certainly lived it up as a single girl proir to meeting my man, but I’m lucky in the sense that my many of my girl friends are in serious relationships, some already engaged or married. They are perfectly content getting pedicures on a Sunday afternoon, or grabbing a mimosa with brunch.
My boyfriend’s friends are quite different. They are still smitten with the bar scene, and don’t consider Friday night complete without blacking out from one too many shots of whiskey. Very few of them are involved in relationships, much less any that teeter on any level of seriousness. I feel for my dude, because he feels a lot of pressure to still be one of the boys, but because he very, very rarely will come along for a night of debauchery, he receives a lot of flack.
Any of you bees have any experience in this area?
Post # 3
That’s so frustrating! It sounds like those guys need to grow up overall, we aren’t very old yet we don’t know anyone who goes out and drinks until they black out.
Post # 4
Agree with MissAsB. Fiance and are 23-24, and we don’t know people like that either! If they can’t respect his wishes, maybe it’s time for him to find new friends. It sounds like he is growing up, but they are stuck at age 21!
Post # 5
My SO is frustrated too, as his pool of “hang out, grab *A* beer, and play a game of soccer together” friends is growing rather small. I don’t think it helps that we live in a beach town where the mindset is overwhelmingly that of Never Never Land. A lot of people have a hard time growing up and accepting adult roles in these parts, hehe.
We’re planning on moving out of the area soon, but I feel bad when I find myself hanging out with my friends much more often than he hangs out with his. =(
Post # 6
My husband had a lot of problems with this with some of his friends – and it wasn’t even that he would never go out with them, he just didn’t want to do it every weekend anymore. He didn’t want to be hungover and in his words “waste my Saturday”.
It’s too bad, but H=he just said that they didn’t have the same interests anymore so he started hanging out with different friends. It was awkward for a while (they would often call the house at 3 in the morning trying to get him to “come out for a good time”) but they’ve gotten the hint over time and have given up.