Post # 1
I’ve only been engaged for three whole weeks, so I’m pretty new here! My FI and I started looking at venues last week, and it got me wondering. How soon after your engagement did you start searching for your venue? How many venues did you look at before you found the perfect one? How long did it take? How did you know that it was “the one”? Did you find a place that was everything you wanted, or did you have to compromise? What questions did you ask? What qualities were you looking for in a venue during your search? Were you able to get your desired date? Were you pleased with your decision, or did you second-guess your choice?
So far we’ve toured a handful of places…some were awesome, some were ok, and some you couldn’t even pay me to get married there! I wanted to relax and enjoy the engagement a little more before I began our search, but then I got super paranoid about not getting our desired date!!! Hopefully I’ll be able to relax more in regards to the wedding planning once we lock down a place 🙂
Please share your experiences relating to any or all of the above questions! Any other insight would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks Bees, and Happy Planning!!
Post # 2
LadyAprill: I had a really hard time with venues,i booked 3 and they all fell through for 1 reason or another.
what i would say is see if you can go down and have a peek when it’s set up so you can get an idea of how big the place is and how many it can realistically hold.
Post # 3
LadyAprill: I’m planning from afar so I won’t even get to actually SEE the venue in real life until the wedding… but I accepted the fact that I had to be okay with that.
So that said, I’ve been stalking blogs and looking at other wedding photos at the venues I’m considering and my mom is checking them out/booking them for me.
Venue has been the biggest stressor for me as well!
Post # 4
We’re having a long engagement (over 2 years), but we started looking at venues about a month after getting engaged. Venues book very quickly in New England, plus I’m a type-A, everything must be planned well in advance type of person. Also, with such a long engagement, it helped to make the wedding feel real to have a venue and date.
I’ll admit, I had been browsing venues online for years before getting engaged, and we ended up choosing the one that has been my favorite for a long time. Once engaged, my FI and I looked at venues online and then made a list of the ones we wanted to see in person. After visiting several places, we narrowed it down to two. We went back to our top two with my parents (they’re paying, so we wanted them to be involved), and really tried to imagine the entire wedding day there. Both are absolutely beautiful, but one of them just felt right. It felt like us and it has all these little touches that speak to who we are as individuals and as a couple.<br />
My best advice is to only look at places that are within your budget (you don’t want to fall in love with someplace you can’t afford!) and from there go with your gut. Have a good idea of the overall feeling you want for you wedding, and then I’m sure one of them will jump out is being the perfect fit.
Post # 5
TGold: I’m in the same boat – long engagement but looking about a month or two into the engagement. We have a lot of guests from different states and countries, so want to lock in the venue at least a year in advance, so it makes sense to look as soon as possible, and relax during months 12-6!
Post # 6
ms-tea: Yup, we’re doing the same thing! Our family and friends are spread out all over the country, and a few of our closest friends will be traveling from international locations, so we really needed to get everything set early! For the past 6 months we haven’t had to do any serious planning, mostly just me creating Pinterest boards, but we love having a set date to look forward to. Once we get about one year out from the wedding, we’ll start booking photographer, caterer, etc.<br />
Post # 7
LadyAprill: We started looking at venues within a month of our engagement. We had narrowed our date down to two months we liked, and we found out what weekends our family was available, then our photographer, and then we began looking at venues seriously. We looked at several online and one really stood out, we visited and booked it. We knew it was the one because there were many photo opportunities both inside and outside, and because the venue is so pretty we don’t have to do much decorating beyond centerpieces, and the food is over the top wonderful. We booked it 13 months ahead, and aside from a few “wish we had eloped” moments (not venue related!!) we have not second guessed our choice. Now that we have hired a DOC, my stress level is way down. LOL
Think about photos, the food, and the sort of atmosphere you want for your guests on the big day. And preferably a coordinator you can work well with.
Post # 8
We had/are having a 22 month enagement, and we began looking right away. We were pretty flexible on our budget, but we wanted to save as much as we could at the same time. We made a list of things we wanted and looked at venues after that.
Things we wanted included :
-indoor reception, outdoor ceremony
-there needed to be plenty of restrooms.. no porta-potties for us!
-free to bring in our own alcohol/caterer
-plenty of “extra” room to play around with so we could have “extras” [dj, dancing, photo booth, candy buffet, ect]
-allowed to decorate
The venue having a bar area and kitchen were a bonus.
All in all, we didn’t get a “perfect” venue, we will be doing alot of DIY and doing alot of things by ourselves, but I think it’ll totally be worth it.
Post # 9
lorakath: Wow!!! That’s so brave! A couple of the places I visited looked way better online! I felt tricked!! Lol jenilynevette: That sounds similar to what I’m looking for 🙂 Hopefully I can find a place that allows us to bring our own alcohol and caterer, has beautiful grounds, NICE CHAIRS (no ugly chair covers lol), is semi-private or completely private, has indoor and outdoor areas, and has separate areas for the ceremony and reception. Thank you for all of the helpful answers ladies!!!! We want a fall wedding and decided this fall would be too soon, so I’ll be having a long engagement too!!!