Post # 1
Pardon me if this sounds completely insane, but a wild spider died sometime in the last 24 hours and I’m very sad about it.
Several months ago, when it started warming up, probably around April, I saw a spider in the bathroom near my office at work. It was in the far back left stall, and had built a small web in the farthest bottom corner near the floor. It wasn’t hurting anyone, so I left it alone.
It had apparently managed to choose a decent spot, because I started to see the carcasses of tiny bugs around the corner, and a few times saw the spider tying up a bug caught in its web. It subsisted this way for quite awhile.
Around July, I started getting attached to it. That was my preferred stall already so I’d say hi every day when I went to the bathroom.
Much to my shock, it was STILL THERE when I came back from vacation, seemed fine.
I said hi to it just yesterday.
Today when I went to the bathroom… the web was all dusty and messed up and abandoned and the spider was gone, probably dead. I think someone killed my spider buddy and I feel like a crazy person because the notion of not seeing this spider anymore actually makes me sad. How crazy does this make me?
Post # 3
Not crazy at all. There’s a spider in the furthest corner of my room, his name is Phil. Phil and I have an understanding that if he ever leaves that corner he will die. I like phil, and I will be sad to have to murder him.
Post # 4
I generally try to take the spiders outside (well, I make DH do it) especially the daddy long legs. It’s ok to be sad for a spider. Maybe it found a better corner.
Post # 5
@Bebealways: Awww, that’s not crazy at all. I’m sad for you. Hopefully someone just decided to take her outside or something.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Bebealways: Apparently it’s mating season for spiders now, which is why so many of them are found indoors around this time of year – he’s probably just gone off to find himself some sexy lady-spider lovin’.
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Post # 8
Aw no! Now I’m sad too 🙁 I can totally understand making friends with him. Like a bit of an escape from work too to see his little life going on.
Haha oh dear. You aren’t crazy! I hope chronicwhimsy is right.
Post # 9
This is so sad. Poor mr spider!
I have always been a spider saviour and as a child used to recue them from around the house and keep them as ‘pets’ in my room (no wonder I had no friends!). However I am now extremely upset with the entire spider population because I tried to rescue a massive one from the cats the other night and it flipping bit me. Stupid flipping spider. I didn’t even know they could physically hurt! I almost threw it back to the cats but decided to be the bigger person and throw it out of the window instead.
Yes, I am taking a spider bite personally.
Post # 10
I’m sorry, I don’t get it at all. I hate spiders and kill them everytime I see them indoors.
Post # 11
@Bebealways: Not crazy. I had a lovely spider living in my bathroom for several months. It seemed to be fond of me. My husband isn’t quite an enthusiast so several times he’d gently place it outside when he saw it, but it kept coming back and eventually we just decided to let it stay indoors. I even have a video of it crawling around the shower on my cell phone. I haven’t seen the little guy in over a month so I don’t know if he died or just moved out but I miss him.
Post # 12
We have i swear the biggest sgarden right by our front door. We named him hank and a few weeks ago he disappeared, we got said bc he’s been with us since prob June. Well he came back after a few days… We think hank is really a girl and went and laid eggs… Yuck..
the only reason why Hank is still there is bc I’m too scared to get close enough to kill him/her
Post # 13
UGH I still think about Jack the Spider sometimes, on my old house’s back deck. He was my spider friend! Until he was no more. 🙁
My mom’s (tiny, suburban) house has a new spider, at first I thought “oh, a new friend!” but then I saw him and he’s WAY TOO BIG and literally builds an 8′ tall web every night (barn spider, they do that) and I was like HOLY CROW that’s too creepy!
Post # 14
@imalittlebirdie: +1 LMAO I have the same relationships with spiders (well, daddy long legs, I’m not a fan and won’t make friends with other kinds of spiders)! If they are in a corner that they cannot drop down on me suddenly, no sneak attacks, they can live. If they ever decide to move to another location that I frequent more often, they will likely have to die.
Post # 15
I know the feeling.
The spider that lives on my cucumber have a mutual understanding. I will feed it flies that I kill in the house and it will protect my plants from future pests it comes across outside.
I’m very attached to Stanley but if he ever comes in my house or crawls on me I will kill him instinctively. If he disappears, though, I’d feel bad putting the fly carcasses in the trash since I’m so used to taking them outside for him.
Post # 16
A friend who is also a spider?????