(Closed) My stepmom is on her death bed….. and I need advice and hugs.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2634 posts
Sugar bee

I’d go.  Even if you have to alternate with one of the other family members, I think just being there will show your family a lot.  How would you feel in a week, a month, a year if you didn’t go and didn’t get a chance to say good-bye.


I’m so sorry you and your family is dealing with this.

Post # 4
368 posts
Helper bee

((HUGS)) – I think, regardless of any family-drama, any traumatic situation or loss always seems to bring families closer together. If you feel like going, then go. If you are more comfortable staying home, then maybe send a supportive message or voicemail to the family. I think you’ll do what’s best for you, and what’s in your heart.

Post # 5
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Unfortunately I have spent more time visiting loved ones in ICU than I care to admit. People take turns visiting. One comes out, another goes in. You have my prayers and lots of virtual hugs,

Post # 6
2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

so sorry to hear about your stepmom Frown

i don’t know about the particular circumstances of the fight with your sister, but i think/hope that in these situations, conflicts take a backseat and become less important. being there to support your dad, or at least making an effort to be there, seems like it’d be worth it. when my grandma was in the icu, i’m pretty sure there was a waiting room for the icu, so even if you can’t be in the actual room at the same time as your siblings and dad, you might still be able to be at the hospital, and your sister can avoid you if she wants.

that’s just my opinion…

Post # 7
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would go, even though for don’t speak with sis B – it means more for you to be there even if you don’t see your stepmom.

Post # 8
2889 posts
Sugar bee

:::HUGS::: You should go, even if you have to switch out with someone. Alternatively, call your dad and ask when would be a good time. I’m sure they must rotate out so you could stop by when Sis is not there if it’s that bad. Could this also be an opprutunity to put the past in teh past and reconcile with your sis?

Post # 9
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m soo sorry to hear about what you’re going through.Given the situation i would put all the drama behind us and go see her.

Post # 10
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

People can take turns going into the ICU.  I think you deserve to say your goodbyes just as much as anyone else.

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