- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
To understand who I am and who my fiance is, a little background is in order. I’m a commitphobe, I didn’t want to be married, I was happy in our long term relationship. While I plan weddings, I never thought to get married. My fiance knows this is and is very good with pulling things out of me (like talking about marriage) maybe a little too good as here I am planning a wedding..:P
My fiance has technically proposed 5 times. I know I know, “what is wrong with you” I get that alot, just needed a kick in the butt and a taste of my own medicine, I guess.
I posted this on FB to my friends and family after we got back from the cruise ship the proposal took place on, read on for the proposal story 🙂
Due to popular demand, here is the story of Dwayne’s proposal.
A little background on us. You know we have been dating for 8 years and around last May (2008) we have been talking about getting married. (And by talking as you guys know me, he has been doing the talking and I’ve been trying hard to not have panic attacks :)) So that means just about every special occasion, we end up talking about it. 🙂 So that is what I mean by “the talk”
So the last few months he has been having “the talk” with me about the ring and all that sort of information…mostly talking about how he just isn’t quite there, and then asking my opinions, ring size but complaining about cost and what he could possibly know what I like, etc. etc. etc. It’s been annoying to say the least.
So we are sitting on the boat with our life jackets waiting for the drill (first day, we were still at port). I’m laying there in the sun with a cold drink in my hand. Life could not be any better. Then D turns to me and says, “you don’t think I’m going to propose on the boat do you?” I was like “uh no, I didn’t really think about it” He then launches into “the talk” again, talking about he doesn’t want to color our trip with it. He said he didn’t have any money saved and I said I figured I do the ” look I get it, you love me, but it’s different to show it then say it, and you know the typical talk…blah blah. I am getting annoyed by that point and he is spoiling my warm, laying out in the sun buzz. but, I’m saved by the bell because we had to go to the muster station (for the drill) We get done with that about an hour later and we are in our cabin.
I’m laying on the bed on my stomach just flipping through the catalogs and papers in the cabin, seeing what they are saying and information about the shops and fun stuff like that. Mostly trying to calm down from the annoyance I felt about the “engagement talk” again and he starts in on it again! So, I just say “look, I get it, it won’t be normal for us, we just aren’t that couple that does that sort of thing.” He is like, “why do you say that” I say “I don’t know b/c we won’t have that surprise element and stuff, we have been together for a long time.. I just don’t think it will be happening.”, he asks if I’m fine, I say yes.
So as you know, this cruise was for his hobby, magic. It’s a free cruise so what am I going to complain about. He then says, well I was going to wait, but I guess I’ll do it now. Now I’m sitting there thinking he is going off to play magic and we haven’t even had dinner or left port, but I was like whatever and was pretty damn pissed that he would ruin my first day on the boat with all this marriage talk….yet again and then leave to go play cards!
He reaches for his backpack, kind of kneels over and down next to me on the bed and says “but here, this is for you” and then he hugs me and drops a box in front, As I’m staring at this black box, he leans around me and opens it up, It was a ring. Girls, not just any ring. A ring I looked at like 4 years ago when we were shopping with friends in 3 towns over. It was my favorite jewlery store and I saw it and commented to a girlfriend while the guys were like 20 feet ahead how it was so stunning and how it was a perfect wedding band. That store went out of business last year! As I’m just staring at this ring, He leans into my ear and says, “will you marry me?” I scrambled up so fast onto my knees just staring at this box, and he is laughing! AT ME! So, I smile very sweetly and punch him, call him an “a hole” while he is laughing at me and he says “will you marry me” with a chuckle between each word, again.
I catch my breath and I say “not till you get down on your knee” so he goes to the foot of the bed and says “Teresa, I knew this to be the only way to surprise you and after 8 years with you I want to be able to surprise you for 50 more years, I love you. You are my best friend and I want the whole world to know this and that we are each others, will you marry me?” And I didn’t even knew it came out of my mouth but I launched myself off the bed into his arms, tackling him in the process and I said yes 🙂