My Story- Long/Vent

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@elliptical2013:  Exactly. And that is all you need. That was the theme of my wedding, all you need is love. and its true.

I noticed that after I got married, and its only been a few weeks, I feel like my “friends” and I are drifting. and you know what..I don’t care…why? Because like you, I have a husband who is so amazing and he is all that matters. THats my partner, my bestfriend, my confidant, everything. If my friends can’t be happy for me, than I don’t need them..

Same goes for you.

Post # 4
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@elliptical2013:  If you are thousands of dollars in debt, wouldn’t it make more sense to find a job rather than pursue even more school and debt at this time? I would worry about women who are just out looking for a guy with a good job who can “take care of them” – I sure wouldn’t want to be friends with those people. You say he is “giving you the wedding you want” but again, if you have so much debt wouldn’t the money be better spent there than on a wedding (especially when you are already married).

Sorry, I just don’t think it sounds like you have your priorities in order.

Post # 7
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I get what you are saying, and I’ve been talking to you for the better part of the day.

ON the one hand, love is all that you need.  How are you so sure that they are jealous?  And you ask them and they say everything is fine?  So then why are they jealous?

Are your posts directly correlated with some of the other posters on the waiting boards lol?

I’m glad that you’ve been to hell and back with your DH and you are about to have the wedding of your dreams.  I’m sure that you are not the only one though, and everyone has their own personal struggles and personal journey to work through. 

I guess I took this part a little personal because of what we talked about earlier:

Please don’t be jealous of the house, wedding, car, ring or whatever it is you think you want/need. Love does conquer all. I could go without it all as long as he was with me

I agree with love conquering all…doesn’t mean that I don’t have other goals in life that I want….and sometimes it is hard to see some people flaunting things in your face (not saying you are, but I know some people do), when you and your SO are working very hard to get there. 

Post # 8
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1018 posts
Bumble bee

@elliptical2013:  

“But I will tell all of you “waiting bees” how difficult it was and STILL is in jumping into a marriage this young”

 

I’m confused at what your post has to do with waiting bees. It sounds like a rant that all your friends are acting jelous as if you “have it all” when you’ve worked very hard for it. I get that, but what do the waiting bees have to do with that? Are they telling you that since you didn’t have to wait too long that you don’t get it or something?

Post # 9
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@elliptical2013:  Thanks for sharing this, I really needed that reminder today.

Post # 12
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1018 posts
Bumble bee

@elliptical2013:  Ok, I get it. It sounds like you’re going through a rough time right now and although I think you are handling it well, it doesn’t invalidate anyone else’s feelings towards waiting/marriage/buying a house.

Everyone’s circumstances are different, and I think you’re right that NO ONE will let other people know their life isn’t perfect if they can help it. But jealous people will always find something to be jealous about.

Post # 14
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@elliptical2013:  Good for you guys! Following your dreams and sticking it through the good and bad times together. While I may not 100% agree with some things I understand where you’re coming from. Some people take vents very personal and pick them apart – don’t mind them. I’m glad you got that off your chest and hope you enjoy your big day!

Post # 16
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@elliptical2013:  This is a really good point:

The struggle is NEVER over, even if you’re married or have a house, a great job, something will always come up that will turn your life upside down or set you back in some way.

It’s important to keep this in mind because I know sometimes I don’t.  It’s good to be reminded of it.

This is also a really good point:

working on yourself is a lifelong process and it doesn’t stop until you die.

It’s good for all of us to take note about this. I think I saw the point about the waiting bees and took this personal and for that I’m sorry!  Some days are just better than others when you are a bee in waiting lol.

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