My Story.. When it isn't right

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
13 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

I couldn’t agree more!!! That’s so awesome that you’ve found the one you’re meant to be with!

Post # 5
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

FI was with someone post divorce that he didn’t love for a few years – they would break up, get back together – because it was comfortable, not because she was who he saw spending his life with.

He finally ended it, dated around, then we got requainted and he and I were engaged within a year and a half… When you know, you know. 🙂

Post # 7
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@shellybee13:  +1! I’ve been there, and done that, and I totally agree!

Post # 8
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013


Could not agree more!
My situation was similar we were together 4 years not 7, but it was over long before it was over, IT became easier to be together rather than face what we really needed to do…break up! 

Now I am about to marry the true love of my life. 

Post # 9
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Great story!! Move on if the alarms are screaming at you! 

Post # 10
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@shellybee13:  Agreed!! I was with a guy for 3 years. A lot of it long distance and I cared for him very deeply. He was deployed to Afghanistan and stationed in Alaska before getting a lucky station near me. I worried for months about whether the newest story of dead soldiers was him. I could hear my phone vibrate in a dead sleep (never missed a single call). I sent him care packages and always let him know he could tell me anything and I would never judge him or feel differently about what he might have had to do over there.




We had fun, but never discussed anything deep. It was a very superficial relationship. I was only 22 when I dumped him but I was scared even then to start over. I regret giving him so much of my time but I’m glad I could be supportive during his active duty. I told him finally “I need to know what your plans are for your army contract ending. I know you ‘don’t know’ but I need you to think about it. I’ll give you a week and ask again.”  A week later, he still said “I don’t know.” So I said “Well. I need to be done then.” And that was it.




We are on ok terms now (he didn’t show any emotion after I left him. Like at all. Until months later when I was in a new, healthy, functional relationship.)




Cheesy, but:




If I hadn’t said the hardest goodbye of my life, I never would have said the greatest hello.




I met my SO the weekend after I dumped the ex. We were officially dating a couple months later. Now I’m in ready-when-you-are mode to start our lives together Smile 3 years later.




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