My Survival Story (Warning: Pics, Possible Triggers)

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 4
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

so did he punch you in your stomach which caused this tear? maybe this is an obvious question…but i wasn’t clear.

anyway, i’m glad that you’re doing better. thanks for sharing.

Post # 6
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I fall backward into a crowd of people. No one helps me up. Everyone stares. No one says anything.

Horrifying. I am so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing.

Post # 7
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1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, thank you for sharing with us. My heart goes out to all who are involved in an abusive relationship. I am also a survivor of domestic abuse. Sadly, it took me years to finally leave and due to having a child with him I still have to see him at least twice a week. The pain and hurt never went away and it still affects me today. 

When I hear stories of abuse on Weddingbee (or other sites) I truly plead for these girls (or guys) to get out while they can and to make as clean a getaway as possible. Sadly, many think it will never get “that bad”, or that it was just an “accident” or that “he/she really loves me”. I really hope your story shows how things can escalate over the years and how serious things can get.

Post # 8
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so sorry…you started college the same month/year as my daughter.  Thank you for sharing your story I know your story could help another girl get out of an abusive relationship.

Post # 10
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Thank you for sharing your story. I agree, you are a survivor and that scar will help you remind yourself of that fact everyday. My neighbor had a very similar situation happen to her in college, which resulted in her dropping out. im glad that it appears that you have family and friends who will help support you. 

Post # 11
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2341 posts
Buzzing bee

I am so sorry that you went through this but I am so glad you got through it. Kudos to you.

Post # 13
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Your bravery for sharing this is admirable. 

 

Post # 14
Member
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Wow. Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you got out of it alive. I was abused too when I was your age (actually probably around the same time) and it takes a lot of time to get over it. i hope you went to therapy. I found that it helped me. 

Post # 15
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Great post.

First off, CONGRATULATIONS !!

You are a member of a very special club… THE SURVIORS

I am a member as well (and have told my story here on WBee before)

Too many women aren’t in OUR Club… too many never leave, can’t leave, or die / are dead.

You are a very COURAGEOUS and WONDERFUL WOMAN

You’ve gotten over the shame, and have found the POWER that comes from telling your Story to others.

YOU WILL SAVE SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE of this I am certain

It is the same reason I continue to tell my story here on WBee

I suffered physical abuse… shoving, pushing, slamming, choking, slapping, hitting & punching

The Physical Abuse was bad… but it was far more random from the other abuse I suffered for 20+ years…

Emotional, Sexual, Financial, Isolation, Psychological… PLUS Physical

The “scars” from these types aren’t as obvious… so naturally they don’t evoke the same amount of outrage in society

BUT they are just as awful, deep & severe with longterm effects for the Woman and her extended family (especially so if she has children)

I had to do a lot of counselling after I left my Ex-Hubby… it took me years to get by some of the emotional trauma (and a breakdown)…

I was highly effected… spending 20+ years with someone calling you names, and tearing your self esteem apart makes you in many ways unable to function like a regular person can… I still have issues in some regards

(HUGE issues with authority, and feeling out of control in some situations, or not give a sh!t.  This is a problem sometimes.  Will I ever be the fully functioning woman I was 20 or 30 years ago in my 30s and 20s… probablly not.  And that is sad)

Which is also WHY I am quick to point of situations here on the WBee Boards when I hear about a gal having issues with her BF / Fiance disrespecting her.  This is NEVER OK

Someone who loves you doesn’t do that.  Ever.

They work hard to build you up and naturally you turn / grow into a better person.  That is a HEALTHY Relationship

Tearing someone down or hurting them in anyway isn’t.  Period.

— — —

I am really really sorry that you had to go thru what you did.  BUT know that you are a far better person now cause you did

“That which doesn’t kill you, can make you stronger”

You are an AMAZING WOMAN… and life is just outside your door waiting for you to embrace it !!

(( HUGS ))

PS… As I tell gals in these bad situations, it may feel like the end of the world, but it doesn’t have to be.  There are great guys out there… they cannot find you if you are holding onto an achor that is intent on pulling you down into the vortex that is their world, until you drown.

LOVE will happen again, and they will be stronger and wiser, and so the LOVE will be far better too.

(I take it from your WBee Profile that you have found Mr Right, and are getting married soon.  So again CONGRATULATIONS !!  You aren’t just a SURVIVOR… you are a HERO for all those who still haven’t found the courage to leave).

KEEP THE FAITH… SPREAD THE WORD !!

 

Post # 16
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am revolted. What a disgusting human being. It really sucks that you met him (andobviously, that he did this to you).

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