my therapist may be a stalker :-\

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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3892 posts
Honey bee

Ummmm I don’t know what the laws are like where you are but would it be worth speaking to the local police to see where you stand? Even if they can’t do anything now, it may be good to have it “logged” with them in case it goes further and you need evidence of prolonged stalking for a restraining order. I am no expert and don’t know the law so some may consider what I have said as an over reaction, but you can never be too careful. If it were me, I would pop to my local police station and see what they have to be say. Be safe. x

Post # 3
Hostess
24457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you need to call the police and get a restraining order on him.  I don’t think that talking to his clinic will be enough with this behavior.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ditto previous posters.  Document everything and talk to the police. Be careful!  Also, he can be reported for HIPPA violations for sharing other peoples medical information without a court order… and the fines for the are very steep…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah.. It does sound like a Lifetime drama. I would document what you’ve experienced and speak to the police. There is something completely off about this situation, I wouldn’t go out without your husband or a friend if possible.

It cannot be a coincidence every single time. It just can’t be.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I agree with PP, report it to the police, file a HIPPA complaint, and do not go out without your hubby/friend/family if at all possible. This situation is rather creepy. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is incredibly scary.  I lived in a town with about 40,000 people, and I RARELY saw people I knew when I was out and about.  So for you to see him hanging around as often as you are…that’s bizarre.  Not to mention the level of unprofessionalism he has shown in his practice.  This guy is a dirtbag, and you have to protect yourself.  Be careful, please!

Post # 9
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mrslovebug:  That’s really creepy.  Population of 100,000 isnt’ that small – you shouldn’t be just running in to him that often. 

Post # 10
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177 posts
Blushing bee

Coming from someone who has a similar background who was stalked by an ex boyfriend for several years. Stop it now. Call the police and HIPPA  Being scared to go places out of fear is a terrible place to be. I’m sorry this is happening to you. Be safe and take action now. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: dont know

This is totally off topic but 100,000 is not a small town, thats a small city.  I live in a small town with less than 2000 and don’t even run into people I want to see that often lol. But back to the real point. HOLY CRAP that guy is scary.  I went to therapy once annd it was a good experience but that is NOT right.  Ive taken social work courses and I learned alot of their rules and they CANNOT do that, they aren’t supposed to talk about other patients and aren’t supposed to even form close bonds outsid eof therapy even after you leave because they’ll always have a type of “power” over you and it can lead to abuse. Seriously contact the police, contact a lawyer, HIPPA, contact whatever network he works with if he isn’t a standalone, and be careful.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mrslovebug:  Don’t let this guy make you feel like you did something wrong. You should not feel like something is wrong with you, and you should not be disappointed in yourself. You did nothing wrong! How were you to know that this therapist would potentially try to find you repeatedly. If this is more than just coincidence, which I full on support talking to the police about this, it is not because of anything you did. You are a victim, not the cause. Also,  he may be doing this to more women or patients, so I advocate fully to report it because you don’t know how many reports this guy has against him.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Omg, this is very creepy and I would be terrified. Go to the police, and be careful!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m afraid that someone simply being in the same places at the same time as you isn’t enough to file a restraining order, and there is probably not much the police will be willing to do about it either. HIPAA laws have to do with the privacy governing patient medical records and while your therapist was unprofessional and gossiped about another patient, I don’t think that the details he disclosed were anything HIPAA cares about.  The best you can do is document any interactions or sightings of the man, and contact the local licensing authority specifically about what he said about the other patients. Depending on this person’s credentials, there may be different standards and expectations of confidentiality; what would be considered a breach of confidentiality for a MD might not be considered problematic for a licensed social worker. 

There is no law or license restriction against being weird, overly familiar, expressing anger, etc.  The therapist definitely sounds weird and unprofessional but I don’t think at least from what you say, that he’s got a crush or obsession with you.  Unfortunately there are weirdos in every line of work but there’s no law against being creepy or weird.

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