My thoughts on cardboxes/wishing wells…

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@ksus07:  I personally would rather have a box to collect cards than to inconvenience one of my guests.  I think as long as that guests agrees to it, it shouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It would be tough to have someone in charge of collecting cards. Typically when I go to a wedding, the first thing I do is look for where the cards go. How about just a simple basket instead of something elaborate that stands out? You’ll be surprised with the amount of money that ends up in some of those envelopes so you will want them all in one place! I feel ya though – the entire gift process makes me uncomfortable! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I guess I don’t think card boxes are rude because a card doesn’t necessarily have to have any type of gift in it. It can just be a card and they need to be collected some where. I know on my wedding day I didn’t want to have to worry about holding cards all night and misplacing one. A couple of people missed the box and just came and gave us the cards personally. Honestly it was kind of inconvenient because I was afraid to set them down and forget them some place. It was much easier for them to just be put in a box. I wouldn’t want to put that responsibility on one of our guests either because then its a hassle for them to keep track of all of them. Then what if one goes missing? No that is too much to ask of someone that is supposed to be enjoying the party.

We had 4-5 cards without money or checks in them, only well wishes from the guest. Personally I would never attend a wedding without at least a card just expressing my happiness for them so I guess I don’t understand why it would be presumed as being rude to have a place to put that card. I guess I just don’t take it as someone asking for donations.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@housebee:  +1

I have been to one wedding without a card box and cards were left all over the place and with a bunch of different people. I don’t see card boxes as rude at all. I think they make it easier for the guests. I also think it will make it easier for you because people will try to hand you the card and you will have to track down cards at the end of the night.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ksus07:  I don’t know what a wishing well is but as for the cardbox I felt the same way, like people would perceive that as me assuming they would be bringing cards. My mom and FMIL explained that the carfs don’t have to have money in them, and most people will bring a card with well wishes written inside. They said the box is so none of them get lost and those with cash are safer and less likely to get stolen. I suppose I see their point since I have some really traditional relatives who would probably at least bring a card with a nice thought in it. They said as a guest it would be annoying to throw their cards in a pile and have to worry of they’d make it to the B&G

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ksus07:  i think its more rude to walk around with that little silk bag and great and collect it, i would opt for the card box…if not people will hand it to you or throw it on a table (not very secure so some evil party gower may take them)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ksus07:  We had a card box.  I dont necessarily see it as a ‘hey give us money’ I see it more as a way to received congrats cards. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@ksus07:  From what I understand, a wishing well is specifically for guests to provide monetary gifts. This is different from a card box, which is just a place for guests to put their cards. Cards don’t necessarily have money in them, but most people tend to bring a card with a message for the bride and groom. I think a card box is a convenience for your guests. Setting it up near the guest book or entrance makes it easy for guests to know where to put their cards, rather than having to run around to track down the person that is collecting cards. I know as a guest I want to drop of my card asap and then move on to the next thing. I don’t think people see card boxes as gift grabby in any way.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We just had people toss cards on the gift table, but we also only had 42 people at our wedding and were the only people in our reception space (so it’s not like anyone could have taken them)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As a guest, card boxes are more conveinient. I don’t want to have to worry about chasing the bride down to find out where she wants her cards. It would cause me a lot of stress. If I am going to attend your event, I am going to bring a card, whether or not I can afford a gift and it’s less stressful to not have to find out who is going to make sure the couple gets my card. I can walk in, stick it in the box, and go about my way confident the couple will receive my well wishes.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I always thought the card box was more for practicality than anything.  Tons of people give cash at weddings, and it’s nice to have a way to organize that.  And for those who may not be able to bring a gift or cash, the box ensures that their card is still accounted for.  It’s okay not to have a box, though.  I went to one wedding where the groom just kept the cards in his jacket as people gave them to him, but it was a relatively small wedding so there weren’t a ton of cards to deal with.  

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ksus07:  haha oh you have one of those moms 😉

I just feel like it would be a pain having to bring that to the bathroom with you, carry them with you when you get your food (if you’re having a buffet) or everytime you go to the bar, dance with them, etc. A lot of guests gave us cash instead of checks so I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving cards sitting on a table while I run to the bathroom or go get cake. I’d have to take them everywhere.

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