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Aw girl I feel ya. We do live together but only because I moved here to be with him and there is no way I could afford living here on my own. I'm glad that you are waiting to be engaged to move in with him. Having a roommate does get OLD though, really fast!! Especially when you're in a serious relationship.
Refresh my memory, do you guys have a timeline for when you can expect to be engaged? How much longer do you think it will be? Or, is there a chance he'll surprise you any day now? That's what I'm struggling with these days -- I really don't know when it will happen. The last time we talked about it, he basically asked my permission to have a "longer engagement" because he wants to get engaged "soon" but doesn't know if we'll be ready to plan/pay for the the wedding by next summer like we had previously thought.
Ahh, well, you know you're in good company here. Each one of us will have our "time" sooner or later! But meanwhile, thank God for the bee, huh? :)
Oh honey, poor you!
I might be a bit too far on the other side of this fence. We've been together since Jan 2000, living together since Sept 2000, without any other flatmates since June 2002.
We're in each other's pockets, and honestly it's quite hard to make the effort to go out for date nights or anything! Only tonight, my fella is watching coverage of Glastonbury festival and moaning aout the lack of fun in our lives!
I'm not saying that everyone has to become old and boring once you live together, but it's horribly easy to fall into bad habits!
So do try to make the best of your current situation, you may well look back on it fondly!
I moaned the other day about it not happening this summer and he said I don't know that, it could happen. He doesn't know, or more like he doesn't have a plan in place. He just reassures me that it will happen and he wants to marry me. I know he does or else I wouldn't still be around 
We got engaged three years ago. We had known for quite some time before that, that it was just a matter of time and money to actually make things happen. Money is why we have a four year engagement! It's not hugely unusual here, though.
Is it possible your fella is saving for the ring and/or the proposal? Does he feel pressure to do these things in a big gesture kind of a way?
Hmmm. Are you much younger? Is he wary of committing, or of you making the commitment?
If the traditional proposal doesn't matter to you, why not buy him a ring and pop the question yourself? Once he gets over the shock and stops laughing, you should know where you stand!
No thanks aunt pol, I'm 32 and traditional and I'm not going to propose to him. We are both stable with jobs etc.....just waiting on him now.
And yes @littlemissmango thank goodness for the Bee!
Bah! He shouldn't say, "I don't know, it could happen..." if he really doesn't have a plan! Argh. Guys are so frustrating.
I really do think it will happen soon for you. He is probably sick of the living situation too. No one wants to be pushing 40 and living with a roommate when you have a beautiful, marryable woman at your side!
ETA: I completely forgot about your other posts and him wanting you to move in, etc. So clearly he IS definitely sick of the living situation I'm so glad you're standing your ground and I think it's a good kick in the a$$ for him to know that if he wants to live with you, he's gonna have to propose. Keep at it!!
Well once you are sure of him, that's what matters really! Best of luck, doll, and night night!
I understand your pain girl. We've been together over 4 1/2 yeats and living together 3. What you picture being together in perfect harmony under one roof is not always the dream we want it to be. I had the same thoughts of us cooking together, etc. that really doesn't happen too often. I did mention that I wanted to start saving in smartypig.com for our wedding (we're not engaged yet). He said that there would be no point because that it wll not have enough time to save. He mentioned it will happen in a year or two. I started jumping for joy. You should have heard him, trying to explain why it wouldn't be worth it without giving too much away.
I felt the exact same way a year ago before we moved in together. I know how much it sucks just wanting to live together and waiting. hang in there!!! It will come. Stay positive.
Of course your day will come darling.. You and I can be waiting buddies.. I had a rough day yesterday so I feel your pain...
Thanks for the all the kind words ladies. Things have been really tranquil lately. Gosh I hope it comes soon for us Ren!
Sprinkle some diamond dust for me!
Keep thinking positive VikingPrincess - your time will come! We all feel this way sometimes... just remember how important it is to you to be engaged before you move in together - from the sounds of other posts it does seem as if he is keen for this to move forward sometime soon - any big anniversaries / special occasions coming up???
Awww crap I lost it tonight!
We were trying to watch tv and his roommate kept banging on the wall. It turned out to be something harmless but I'm tired of this!!!! When are we going to make it official and stop dealing with this crap?!
I told him I'm going to find an apartment next month because I'm not dealing with a roommate for another few months. I'm 32 for crying out loud and I want a hubby and a family! He said well you know I want you to live with me. I said thanks but that is not all I want , I want more at this point.
In the end we just were both frustrated and I came home and typed this up.
Why doesn't he want to speed this along as much as I do? Why does he have more patience in dealing with the roommate situation than I do? Why hasn't he asked me to marry him yet?!
Argh!
I feel your pain! My story is that my hubby was deployed to Iraq for the past year, returned safely just a few weeks ago. We were engaged for about 6 months before he left for his deployment, I was finishing grad school, and we did the courthouse thing in March 2009 but are planning a big wonderful wedding this October. However, the past year I have been living with a good friend of mine, a confirmed bachelor, and it was miserable! I just wanted to be with my man and have him home and not be living with my roommate (who we are still living with but just bought our first home - presuming our closing goes well).
Long story short, if it gives you any comfort - at least you are together now. I hope that doesn't sound like pat advice, but that was all I wanted for a long year. Someday you will look back on this time of your life and laugh at the ridiculousness of it! I know how miserable it can be, though, so I hope your time comes here very soon.
Man, I feel you SO MUCH right now! I don't understand! If he wants to live with you so badly why doesn't he just propose? Why is it so f'n hard? Maybe it's a "J" thing, my guy is also a "J" ;)
What I REALLY don't get is all the bees whos bf's have actually bought the ring but still haven't proposed for months, or even YEARS? WTF? You bought the ring, dude! I assume the purchase was made with the intent of a proposal? So what's with the hold up? I am on the total "man hate train" right now. I just don't understand them.
I live with my guy, a decision I kind of regret. I love him with all of my heart and love living together, but I can't help but think it may have slowed things down a little. There's not a whole lot of incentive for him to get busy. I admire your strength, keep it up!
@lezlers He is waiting for something, I dunno. He really really wants to live with me though and I'm just not giving in dude! I feel you though, I'm kind of on that train too. And I seriously don't get the holding onto the ring thing either!
I'm tardy to the party, but yes, I am tired of waiting. I thought my being away for 8 days, out of the freaking country for goodness sakes, would make him run to the airport and propose at the baggage claim, because he missed me so much.
Nope.
I probably watch too many movies anyway.
I'm still happy and I love him. Just very impatient right about now.
@MsMamaBear Good lord I feel the same way. I took a trip away for a girls weekend over a month ago. He missed me but not propose right now miss me! I feel for you too! Good trip anyways tho?
Yeah it was great! Good beach time and sister time. :)
Before I left, he told me to watch the men on the ship and islands, like they were ALL going to hit on me.LOL Maybe I should tell him some did...maybe that'll light a fire under him?
Nah, I doubt it! 
I DO know a ring would have kept them away.LOL
I completely feel your pain VikingPrincess! We aren't going to live together until we're married and it makes waiting SO much harder. All I can think about is that at least if we lived together, marriage wouldn't be much different and it would be easier to wait.
And I'm there with you on the roommate situation too. I get really desperate some days wondering how much longer I have to live with a roommate...
Has he said why he doesn't want to get married but he wants to live together? I think it's good you are sticking to your guns on that...I feel the same way about living together.
Go ahead and get your apartment, it could be the kick in the ass that he needs
And I feel the same way about wanting to be home and cook. I LOVE cooking and BF has a beautiful kitchen. Right now it's used primarily for leftover take-out and beer storage 
....such a bachelor pad! But has potential.
I live by myself so no roommate blues for me. But I think he has a bit of the roommate blues. I just have 'small studio apartment' blues. I want a REAL KITCHEN and some space!
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Ladies even though I think it is soon it still doesn't feel soon enough! Just need to vent a bit.
I'm sick of having a roommate, I want to spend my time with my BF. I want him to be sick of having a roommate and ready to be with me all the time. I want to get engaged so we can live together and start planning things. I don't like having to eat out all the time because we live with other people and need to get away. I want normal, I want us to cook together. I want my time to come and I'm having an impatient day.
Just sick of waiting already!
Anybody else feel the same way?