(Closed) My time will come, right?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aw girl I feel ya. We do live together but only because I moved here to be with him and there is no way I could afford living here on my own. I’m glad that you are waiting to be engaged to move in with him. Having a roommate does get OLD though, really fast!! Especially when you’re in a serious relationship.

Refresh my memory, do you guys have a timeline for when you can expect to be engaged? How much longer do you think it will be? Or, is there a chance he’ll surprise you any day now? That’s what I’m struggling with these days — I really don’t know when it will happen. The last time we talked about it, he basically asked my permission to have a “longer engagement” because he wants to get engaged “soon” but doesn’t know if we’ll be ready to plan/pay for the the wedding by next summer like we had previously thought.

Ahh, well, you know you’re in good company here. Each one of us will have our “time” sooner or later! But meanwhile, thank God for the bee, huh? 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh honey, poor you!

I might be a bit too far on the other side of this fence. We’ve been together since Jan 2000, living together since Sept 2000, without any other flatmates since June 2002.

We’re in each other’s pockets, and honestly it’s quite hard to make the effort to go out for date nights or anything! Only tonight, my fella is watching coverage of Glastonbury festival and moaning aout the lack of fun in our lives!

I’m not saying that everyone has to become old and boring once you live together, but it’s horribly easy to fall into bad habits!

So do try to make the best of your current situation, you may well look back on it fondly!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We got engaged three years ago. We had known for quite some time before that, that it was just a matter of time and money to actually make things happen. Money is why we have a four year engagement! It’s not hugely unusual here, though.

Is it possible your fella is saving for the ring and/or the proposal? Does he feel pressure to do these things in a big gesture kind of a way?

Post # 8
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hmmm. Are you much younger? Is he wary of committing, or of you making the commitment? 

If the traditional proposal doesn’t matter to you, why not buy him a ring and pop the question yourself? Once he gets over the shock and stops laughing, you should know where you stand!

Post # 10
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Bah! He shouldn’t say, “I don’t know, it could happen…” if he really doesn’t have a plan! Argh. Guys are so frustrating.

I really do think it will happen soon for you. He is probably sick of the living situation too. No one wants to be pushing 40 and living with a roommate when you have a beautiful, marryable woman at your side!

 

ETA: I completely forgot about your other posts and him wanting you to move in, etc. So clearly he IS definitely sick of the living situation I’m so glad you’re standing your ground and I think it’s a good kick in the a$$ for him to know that if he wants to live with you, he’s gonna have to propose. Keep at it!!

Post # 11
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well once you are sure of him, that’s what matters really! Best of luck, doll, and night night!

Post # 12
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79 posts
Worker bee

I understand your pain girl.  We’ve been together over 4 1/2 yeats and living together 3.  What you picture being together in perfect harmony under one roof is not always the dream we want it to be.  I had the same thoughts of us cooking together, etc.  that really doesn’t happen too often.  I did mention that I wanted to start saving in smartypig.com for our wedding (we’re not engaged yet).  He said that there would be no point because that it wll not have enough time to save.  He mentioned it will happen in a year or two.  I started jumping for joy.  You should have heard him, trying to explain why it wouldn’t be worth it without giving too much away.   

Post # 13
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I felt the exact same way a year ago before we moved in together. I know how much it sucks just wanting to live together and waiting. hang in there!!! It will come. Stay positive.

Post # 14
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1106 posts
Bumble bee

Of course your day will come darling.. You and I can be waiting buddies.. I had a rough day yesterday so I feel your pain…

Post # 16
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Keep thinking positive VikingPrincess – your time will come! We all feel this way sometimes… just remember how important it is to you to be engaged before you move in together – from the sounds of other posts it does seem as if he is keen for this to move forward sometime soon – any big anniversaries / special occasions coming up???

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