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Need some advice, ladies.  My parents divorced when I was 5, and my mom remarried when I was 8.  I have always had a good relationship with my Dad, but have technically spent more time with my step-father, being that I lived with my mom growing up.  My step-father and I have an OK relationship, but there have been some ups and downs.

Hot topic is: who walks me down the aisle?  If I’m being completely honest, I just want my dad to walk me.  I love my Dad, and this is how I have always imagined it.  I know that he wants to do it, too. My step dad and I do not have the same “love”, in fact, I have never called him “dad” and we have never exchanged “I love yous”.  It never felt appropriate.  My Dad is not jealous, and would never say so, but I feel that deep down he does not want to share this job with anyone.

How do I deal with the fallout with my mom and step dad?  My mom has been harping on “alternative” weddings for years (even before I was engaged) basically assuming I would have both of them walk me down the aisle.  I have never told her that I would do this.  I feel like more so than my step dad, my mom’s feelings will be hurt if he does not walk me down the aisle.  I think my mom has always wanted me and my step dad to be closer.  It just never happened.

Is there a way that I can honor my step dad without having him walk me down the aisle?  Is there any comparable alternative?  I thought maybe I’d have 2 father daughter dances (will this bore my guests?) or maybe have my step dad do a reading during the ceremony.  This stresses me out 24/7.  Basically I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I feel like I should be happy, too.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I am sort of in the same situation as you.  Except I have lived with my stepfather, and am closer to him.  But my dad is definitely the jealous type, he wants to do it, and I think if I even mention I want them both to do it, he will refuse to give us the $ he promised for the wedding.   I am thinking, because of the way our ceremony seating will be set up, which is kind of an L shape, that one can walk me part of the way, and the other the rest of the way.  They DO NOT get along.  But it is my day....

Have you discussed it with your stepfather?  maybe he could do a reading?