Post # 1
I found the venue of my dreams on a lake with the most beautiful Chapel and background you’ve ever seen. I can’t afford to do a reception anywhere other than the pavillion that they offer. I also don’t know if I want to venture that far from the gorgeous view in order to provide alcohol. I decided to serve horderves and a dessert bar with a chocolate fountain instead of a traditional sitdown. All of this will be taking place right after lunch time and be over before 5 pm.
My feelings are really hurt because a few of my friends have commented on how weddings without alcohol are boring. I’m devestated because I want people to have fun….but I don’t want to change venues because this venue is my dream AND fits into my VERY small budget.
Does not having alcohol really make for a boring wedding? What about ideas so people have a good time?
My fiance and I are doing a surprise dance and having all sorts of outside games to entertain people. Do you think that will be enough for a three hour reception?
Post # 3
I went to a wedding last year without alcohol and I had a great time! I wouldnt worry too much about their negativity. They can flask it if they can’t go one frickin’ day without drinking, lol.
If you have a DJ who is a good MC, they can keep the crowd entertained.
Post # 4
There is nothing wrong with not having alcohol at your wedding. I know most people expect it and I understand why people would want to have that option, but your reception is early enough that I don’t think that it would be as big of a deal as a dry reception that was later in the evening. It’s your night, and if you have fallen in love with the venue then you should have your wedding there! Surely you can prove to all your friends that you don’t need alcohol to throw one hell of a party!
Post # 5
I think that is totally fine. They can live without booze for three frickin hours! Maybe set up an ‘after party’ at a local bar for later that evening?
Post # 6
@seabunny: Exactly your guests can flask it, just tell them in advance that the venue will not allow you to offer alcohol and they can bring a flaks and spike there own drinks. Plus your reception sounds short, people will survive.
If you can afford too, why not offer an after party at someones house like your parents, and provide alchohol and pizza there for any wedding guests that would like to attend?
Post # 7
I agree with the afterparty idea. You guys can snack, have a fun time in a beautiful location, then head out for a good time.
Post # 8
My DH and I chose not to have alcohol at our wedding (other than the option of a champagne toast), and our guests had a wonderful time.
Although many adults seem to think that alcohol is a “must” at weddings, it’s not. As prior posters have stated, your guests do not need to drink during those few hours that they will be celebrating your big day. In all honesty, anyone who prioritizes their need to drink over sharing in your happiness either has a drinking problem he or she may not yet have admitted OR you and your FI are just not that important in the person’s eyes. Either way, switching your beautiful venue just to try to appease those few individuals is completely unecessary.
A final comment for those who are advocating that the OP encourage her guests to “flask it.” It’s quite likely that the rules in place for the OP also apply to all of her guests as well. If the policy is “no alcoholic beverages allowed,” encouraging guests to BYOB would be very counterproductive and could possibly result in fines or other penalties to the OP or whoever signed the contract for the venue.
Post # 9
I don’t see anything wrong not having it, but I can understand your worries. I felt the same way too. My family is fueled on alcohol (as bad as it sounds). They just are not fun unless they have a few.
Maybe you could do an “after party” somewhere ?!?
Post # 10
Honestly if it is ending at 5pm, I don’t think anyone would miss the alcohol. You could always come up with a fabulous signature mocktail!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Tell them that you worry for them if they can’t go without alcohol for a couple of hours. Maybe you can organize an afterparty at a bar or something for people to drink to your health?
Post # 12
Since it’s at an early time of day, maybe you could arrange an after party for the evening? If I was a guest at your wedding I wouldn’t be too concerned with a lack of alcohol in the middle of the afternoon, but it would be fun to keep the party going!
Post # 13
To be honest I think you should chose a venue that lets you have alcohol, at least a champagne toast. Its my opinion, I had my wedding 2 weeks ago, although it was a little different than usual since it was in another country I think the shy people let loose a little bit thanks to the booze. I guess it depends on your guests if they don’t really drink that much then don’t worry!!
Post # 14
You do not have to have alcohol at your wedding, especially since it’s during the day. If you have a lot of friends who like to drink maybe you can arrange an after-party at a club or something. But otherwise just ignore them. I’d have a great time at your dessert bar on the lake!
Post # 15
3 hours is a really short reception, it would be way different if you were expecting people to hang around for a lot longer (and a lot of people probably wouldn’t stick around for much longer than that, without alcohol to keep their fun circuits fueled, haha). I can see how people might think it would be more fun to have alcohol at the party but it’s pretty rude of them not to keep those opinions to themselves.
Post # 16
I’ve seen a good majority of places especially places owned by the state that don’t allow liqour of any kind. It really IMHO depends on what you want. I know that would be a deal breaker for me because I would personally also like to be able to drink even if it were only for the toast. I also know my friends drink (i dont mean heavily but when they go out) and I know that even though the day is about me I also want to make sure they’re having a good time.
If you nd your FI are okay with no liqour than let them know. So that being said I agree with flasking. Let those people know they can bring a flask with them if they would like.