(Closed) My Venue Doubts are making me feel like a JERK!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is the money you’d save by going with the cheaper venue more than what your inlaws would lose on the deposit? Maybe doing a little math will make the decision easier (and will give you some ammunition if you decide to approach your FI and FILs).

Post # 5
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hmm. That’s kinda tough, but I don’t feel like you should sacrifice the venue you really want, especially if it’s cheaper. Their feelings may be hurt if you try to return the money. Could you just talk to them and say something like, “We SO appreciate your generous gift for the venue deposit! Ultimately, after looking at the budget more closely, we decided to go with ## location, instead. We wish we would have realized this sooner, but hope you understand. Is it okay if we put that money toward _____ instead?”

Pick something else that’s close to $1,500. The DJ? Flowers? Even though their money isn’t TECHNICALLY going towards that, I think they’ll appreciate the symbolism instead of thinking their money went toward nothing or just having it returned. It’s just a different way of thinking of it.

Post # 6
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1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

is the deposit refundable?  or partially refundable?  perhaps I am just blind and skipped over the part where it said that.  With your date being so far away, they should easily be able to book it if it is hugely popular in your area. 

 

I am sure if you spoke to your In Laws they would certainly understand, especially if the deposit is refundable, then you can put it towards the new venue. 

just a thought…  you wont know unless you ask?

Good Luck!

Ronney

Post # 7
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1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

PS just looked at the photos, and I can see why you are having regret… good luck and I hope you get it worked out.  Let us know what happens and how it turns out. 

 

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