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Sorry for the all-caps but I'm SO upset, I'm crying in my office at work! My fiance and I had picked out a perfect venue for our reception, it was at one of our favorite speakeasy bars in the city! We've had our hearts set on this location since before we got engaged!!!

We were all set to hand over a deposit this week when the venue emails my fiance and tells him that "someone in management passed away so they can't book ANY events for the coming year." WTF is this??? 

It's not like we were trying to pick out some random ballroom somewhere, we chose this bar in particular since it's absolutely beautiful, and we chose it since we're not having anything else wedding-traditonal at the reception: no cake, no dancing, nothing! It was SUPPOSED to be just great cocktails in a beautiful space with a few close friends, and now that's RUINED!!!!

That's horrible!  BIG (((HUGS))) going out to you!!!

Good luck on finding something new...I'm sure that Peep Toe can offer you MANY great ideas!

The other thing is that if the management person just recently passed away, the bar may hire someone to replace him eventually.  Right now they may be too overwhelmed to deal with any new business, but eventually someone should take over if this was profitable.  You should start looking at other venues as a backup, but it is possible that the situation will be resolved with this bar in a month or two.

I'm so sorry to hear this. My sister had the same thing happen, although her place folded (luckily they got the deposit back) and although they didn't have their wedding at their dream place, they still had an awesome time. Good luck!

Thanks for all the kind words. I know SF has a lot of great places to have a wedding reception, it's just that both of us wanted to avoid a "traditional reception" and everything that usually accompanies it. 

I'm just so overwhelmed with trying to find somewhere else that could possibly even come close to what we would have gotten at our first choice. I told my fiance I don't even feel like having a reception now; I just want to have our City Hall ceremony as planned and be done with it. 

As he pointed out, this could be way worse if it had happened closer to our date, which is true. It's just hard to focus on anything but being disappointed right now.

@peeptoe Thanks for the offer, I'll message you sometime this week or next :)

I'm sorry.  I agree with Eloping though, check back in a few weeks after people at the venue have calmed down some.

Oh no! I am so sorry! That sucks. My venue had a minor mishap and I made sure the contract stated that they owed me twice my wedding budget if they canceled on me. Make sure you have a similar contract down when you settle on your next one. Good luck!

Aww, that's terrible! I would start looking at new places right away. There are so many unique and classy locations you might love just as much or more. Hopefully, in your case, everything happens for a reason. Best of luck!

Thanks again, everybody. My fiance is friends with a bunch of people in the SF cocktail/nightlife scene so even as of last night we were talking to people recommending new venues, and even someone who is friends with one of the owners at our original venue, who is speaking to him on our behalf. 

I do feel terrible about what happened to the other owner, when I first heard "the owner died" I figured he was an old man, but it was someone who was only 34, and he succumbed to cancer. So sad :(

Hearing that put this whole thing into perspective for me; here I was b!tching about not having our venue, when this poor guy's family and friends are dealing with his death.