Post # 1
Just finished my vows last night and I think they came out pretty good…but I’d like a second (and third and fourth…lol) pair of eyes to look at them. Anything that doesn’t quite flow well or doesn’t make sense? Thanks!
I used this couple’s format for vows.
I am thrilled to be standing here with you today, about to become your wife. Seven years ago, when all I was looking for was a summer job…I had no idea that I would end up falling in love with the boy who I’d had a crush on since 7th grade.
We have grown up together, first as neighbors, then as friends, finally in our relationship. I am so excited to have the opportunity to continue to grow together in this new chapter of our lives.
I love that you work hard at everything you do. I love your sense of humor. I love your commitment to bettering yourself every day. I love that you always find ways to show me that you’re thinking of me. And I love your unending patience, especially because I don’t always deserve it.
I am so thankful that you have given me the opportunity to experience all of the wonderful things about you and every day I find something new to love. So today, in front of God and our family and friends, I make this vow to you:
I promise to love you forever. I promise that I will be by your side through the good times and the bad. I promise to always respect you. I promise to support you in everything you do. I promise to put things in perspective for you. And I promise to laugh with you (and sometimes at you).
I love you.
Post # 4
@kswiftbride: personally I think it is too long but that is just me:) I would, myself, use the last 2 paragraphs (possibly add a tiny bit more to the first but last paragraph). The first 3 paragraphs sound more like a speech that you might do at the reception….IT IS LOVELY THOUGH so please dont take offense….everyone is different and I am a
keep it short kinda girl:)
Post # 5
it’s nice of course, but I must agree with the PP, it’s very long. Will you be able to make it through that without having a breakdown? I guess personally I have a hard time understanding the long speeches people tend to write as part of vows, since vows technically are what you vow to do and not do during your marriage, not a proclaimation of your love. The first 3 paragraphs, I’d say in a toast at the Rehearsal Dinner or in the letter I plan to write to him for our wedding day.
The actual vows part is nice, although I think you say promise way too much.
Post # 6
@kswiftbride: It’s nice, but as PPs said, it is quite long. Maybe try to make a bigger impact with less words?
Good luck and congrats!
Post # 7
I would take the second paragraph… and then the second last one… both as is, then I’d take the last one but maybe say promise less…and I think if it were me I would make the very LAST line something sentimental, and move the laugh with you (maybe at you) earlier.
that’s just me, but I think it is very nice 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks for the comments!
I am surprised that everyone is saying they are too long. It takes me just about 1 and 1/2 minutes to read, which doesn’t seem long to me at all?
Our wedding will only be about 15-20 minutes long so I felt like the vows would sort of be the centerpiece of the whole thing, and neither of us will be making a speech at the Rehearsal Dinner or the Reception.
Post # 9
@mayflowerbride13: I like the idea of switching the lines up so that I end up with something serious. Thanks!
As for the promise thing – ya’ll are right, it does seem kind of repetitive. I was just following the format, but maybe I will combine the sentences and only use “I love” and “I promise” one or two times.
Post # 10
@kswiftbride: just remember, that even if it takes you 1.5 minutes here, it may take less or more on the actual day – more if you’re tearing up, less if you’re not used to public speaking since we all tend to read much faster when nervous! Also, if you’re not used to public speaking, 1.5 minutes will seem like a lifetime when you’re actual saying them in front of all your guests!
Post # 11
@kswiftbride: I like it, it’s not too overy sentimental and there are no poems involved. As for it being too long, maybe cut a hymn?
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: Very true! Thankfully we are both pretty good public speakers. I don’t think I’m going to start crying but it definitely is a possibility. I’m pretty certain it will take between 1 – 2 minutes.
Post # 13
They are wonderful!!! You did a great job. Made me get excited and want to write mine now. lol
Post # 14
To the OP: I don’t feel that it’s TOO long. It’s heartfelt, and you cover many areas in expressing your love and affection to your SO. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Post # 15
I love this!! I wasnt going to write mine but you have inspired me!!
Post # 16
I love it! I don’t think it’s too long.