my wedding & aunt and uncle getting divorced – sticky situation(s)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know why any man would want to be there, it’s kind of a women’s event!

Maybe he could drive her, and the men in the family could go to lunch with him, if everyone’s comfortable?  All the men in my family went and golfed and had lunch while all the ladies were at the shower.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t invite the uncle to the wedding. He’s been in your family 20 years, but only through his marriage to your aunt.

My brother’s 10 year marriage broke up a while ago. I really liked his ex (without being super close), but have only seen her once since and will never invite her to any event where family will be present. Because she’s no longer in the family, it’s just not appropriate. Not to mention a recipe for drama.

As her new partner, I would invite B to the wedding. But not the bridal shower. (“Sorry, it’s a women-only event”). But I don’t see the harm in meeting him as he drops her off. Can’t he then go and see a movie or something?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m inviting my “aunt” to the wedding who has been divorced from my (blood relative) uncle for 15 years now. I’m close to her, so they’re just going to have to play nice, which I have seen them do at other weddings. I adore her, I don’t care if she isn’t in the family anymore.

I’m not sure what to do here. Do you have any kind of relationship with him? If not, I wouldn’t invite him. Things are really fresh there too.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

agree with PP, if aunt is divorced, the uncle really isn’t family anymore and you aren’t required to invite him.  unless you have a special bond with him and want him there.

that being said, if your aunt is dating B, then i would extend her a +1

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