(Closed) My wedding day is in 6 days and he's just cancelled it!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Oh honey, I’m sorry! It sounds like things definitely got way out of hand. I know it’s really, really tough now, but give them today to cool down. Things are still fresh, and emotions can still be high from last night. Give him a chance to cool down and speak rationally tomorrow. Was your FI saying bad things about your brother? I’m just trying to make sure I understood what happened.

  Nevertheless, I’m thinking about you :-(. My day is also June 23rd…we just need a good, happy day!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Wow, yes, I would give him a day to cool down. I’m so sorry to hear about that. Don’t give up hope – people can start saying things out of high emotion. Thinking of you.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh, my…I’m sorry hun!  Thinking of you and hoping it all works out.  I’m kind of curious of why a fight with your brother would amount to him calling off the wedding with you??  But emotions are high, and hopefully in the next day he’ll cool off and calm down.  Wishing you the best of luck!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Dotty2012:  Why on earth was your FI bad mouthing you? Alcohol is no excuse!!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Dotty2012:  if your fiance was saying nasty things about you, shouldn’t you be a bit mad as well??  that doesn’t seem like something a happy man who is entering into marriage in 6 days would be doing…  I’m sorry your going through this.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@ticatica:  So agree!! I responded before seeing that….I would be so upset (regardless of alcohol) if my FI was doing that!  Props to your bro for standing up for you!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Dotty2012:  If he is happy to throw it all away for this, then his ego is bigger than his love for you.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2003

OK, first off, I am replying under my wife’s account. Had to when she showed me your post. So this is a guys perspective and please do not judge her for it…

Do not think that you were not good enough for him… sounds like he is not good enough for you. Any self-respecting man will not say anything truly nasty about his wife (or wife to be) drunk or not. We will say that she nags at us or joke around with friends, but nothing mean or degrading. And to do it in front of your family… Sounds like he is not a “fun” drunk, and given the fact that you live in the UK, alcohol is more prevalent; so I will assume that this is not a random occurence.

I am sure that he was/is nervous, and this is just his excuse to be scared and hide. I really do not know what to say… actually I do, but you probably do not want to hear it. So I will be supportive. Please remember that God works in mysterious ways, and sometimes we do not understand the trials that he is putting us through, but he does it for a reason. If it is meant to be and part of his plan, it will work out. 

Proverbs 18:22 – The man who finds a wife, finds a treasure, and receives favor from the LORD.

Ephesians 5:33 – So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself…

Take care of yourself.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry, but in my experience DRUNKS DON’T LIE. I wouldn’t want to marry a man who could say nasty things about the woman he is supposed to “love honor and cherish” in 6 days. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Dotty2012:  But this should be a red flag. Being an arsehole when you’re drunk is acceptable to a point but not where your own family feels like smacking the guy. I can’t understand why you’ve been accepting this guy talking sh1t while he’s drunk for 4 years…and now he’s making it your brother’s fault?

Think this through carefully….don’t make this your brother’s fault, it’s reasonable that he was just defending you. Think carefully about a guy who is more bothered about keeping face than he is about marrying you.

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