My wedding day was horrible

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I just narrowed my eyes and scoffed. Tricky tricky!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You know what?we had SO much go wrong/awry it was ridiculous. Half the guests didn’t show(after rsvp’ing they were coming) so food got wasted,which meant our money got wasted. The photographer disappeared halfway through, the cake was nothing like we expected, we had gatecrashers,the list goes on and on.

 

2 years on, I really don’t care. DH and I scrubbed up well, we got married and that was all that mattered really. It makes me so sad when brides get so upset about little things that went wrong that that’s all they can fixate on. Hell, I couldn’t even tell you what we ate or what music they played as I walked down the aisle. I know they played what we wanted them too, but for all I can remember they may as well have played the magic roundabout theme song!

 

we are happy and healthy and really,in the grand scheme of it all,that’s all that matters. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

@BrideofGroomzilla:  Same! I agree with some of that, but I’m a bit hesitant on the lack of registry… I don’t want to do a registry, but I probably will just for that safety net and hey, I might end up with something I want/need. Some people refuse to give money in lieu of an actual gift, so what if you end up with 3 toasters? I know it happens… =P

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We did not have a bridal party. I was so happy to not have to coordinate anyone but myself and DH. 

We did a cruise ship wedding – I originally had a seating arrangement made and the escort cards made – turns out the tables seated (more or less, I don’t even remember now) a different number than what I was told – no matter, the day of coordinator just put out everyone’s cards as close to what I had planned originally – no big deal. I don’t think anyone really noticed too much, even though the table name on their card may not have matched the table name they got seated at. 

We didn’t do a registry – both of us had lived on our own for many years before we got married, and felt that all of our guests would be spending plenty on attending our wedding as it was a destination wedding. 

Oh, and I ended up forgetting to pack DH’s dress shirt and tie, because I had changed my mind about which luggage to take as carry on – luckily we got to the destination 4 days early and went and bought a new shirt, and my Dad gave him one of his ties. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BrideofGroomzilla:  We didn’t have a DJ so our playlist was the major source of stress. However, at the last minute, we just had our venue (a restaurant) use its house music and guess what? It was so loud at reception w/ people having fun that you couldn’t even hear the house music. We were worried for nothing.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@BrideofGroomzilla:  Is it really? I don’t know much about it… looks like fun though, running around a store and scannng stuff you want! I actually would like to sell most of my current stuff whenever I get the chance to move, and use the money to get stuff I actually want, instead of heavy, expensive furniture that I hate… freaking hand-me-downs… I have no room for the bedroom set that’s taking up all the space! And so many dishes I never use…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I must have spent 10 hours picking a song to walk down the aisle to…I ended up going with my first choice, which I’d found 5 minutes into that 10 hours AND a few days after the wedding someone asked me which song it was and I couldn’t remember. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I can’t imagine I’d be stressed out on my wedding day about programs, menus, or any of the things you mentioned. I would potientially be stressed about a seating chart – or really, a lack of – because I want my guests to feel comfortable and welcomed and not scrambling to get to sit with their family/friends.

Those things are potiential stressors BEFORE the wedding day, not on. I think having reasonable expectations and preparing in advance would prevent those stressors.

Things that could be stressful on wedding day are things out of my control – a vendor flaking out/doing a poor job, traffic, unexpected weather (freakishly hot or rainy), the electricity going out at our venue, a family emergency, etc. You can’t just…not have those things to avoid the stress (save going to city hall). You just have to manage your expectations and pick reliable people/vendors.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrideofGroomzilla:  I stressed a lot about my hair/makeup. I wanted it to be perfect, and I went through a lot of trials to get it right (hair was pro, makeup was DIY). And you know what? On my wedding day, I had the glow of a bride about to marry her best friend, and there is nothing they sell at Sephora that could’ve given me that. If I could do it over, I would worry much, much less about that.

 

A quick note about the registry – here’s the thing, I get it. We lived together for 3 years before we were married. But registries really are for your guests – not you guys. It makes it easier for them to purchase you something you actually want. Plus, it keeps you from getting 5 toasters. We just did 1 registry, and made sure it had enough on there to give people options in a few difference price ranges. It worked out great.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Well, I am a (hopefully) encore bride. But at my first wedding, the cake maker lost our order. Yup, that’s right… Lost. No cake.  And this is a major wedding cake maker in the south.  I won’t mention the name but if you’re curious, PM me.  We called and yelled at them, and they brought us… Wait for it… Birthday cakes. Children’s birthday cakes with the child’s names on them. One was brown icing, the other was bright blue (wedding colors were lavender and white).  So ahem yes, that was bad but potentially an omen of how the marriage would end?  

The point is, I thought that one was all set, no need to worry or stress. And I was obviously wrong :-).

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