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Did you try it on before or order it online? Does it fit you properly or does it need alterations? If it still needs to be fitted, it will probably look much better once it is. And is there anything you could add or take away from it to make it better for you (adding a sash, removing some sort of detailing, etc.)
If you attached a picture of the dress, not even necessarily on you (though that would be better) that would help a lot!
aw im so sorry, I sort of know how you feel. I ordered a dress and hated it luckly i had time and my mom bought me a new one.
What about checking DB online they have quite a few under $200
Post a pic maybe we can help!
Aww...what exactly about the dress do you think is making you feel this way? Maybe it's not as bad as you are thinking. Like you said, you probably had a certain expectation in your mind and it's just turning out to be different than that. Different doesn't always mean awful!
Awe I am so sorry!
Can I ask what is wrong with the dress?
Is it too small?, too big? Something that can be altered to fit better?
Where did you order it from?
Oh, hon, that sucks. Do post a pic of the dress and we can try to think of something. OR head to your local mall and look at the sales racks, prom season has ended and there MIGHT be something classy enough for a ceremony lurking among the sparkly neons.
I feel terrible for you. I remember your wedding invites (i LOVED them) so i know you have great taste! I hope it's something that just needs to be altered.
What did you like so much about the dress that made you purchase it in the first place? Maybe you are focusing on something small and not on the reason you loved it so much originally.
OH no, I'm so sorry! Do you think its hopeless? Or maybe alterations can help? You said you don't have money for a dress but there are tons of ways to find a dress that isn't as expensive as you'd think. DB has $100 sales all of the time, there are trunk shoes, etc. If you can't fix this dress, I'd try my hardest to find some money for another one. You want to feel beautiful in your dress so maybe you can scratch something off of your budget to be able to afford a new one? Good luck.
I'll post a picture of what it looks like on the "rack." I ordered this dress custom-made after failing to fall in love with anything else, seeing this dress and being head-over-heels for it. I tried on similar dresses in stores and I liked how they looked- I was going for super curvy sexy but with some modesty (it has a higher neckline)- kind of classic? The dress is about a size too small (?) and instead of being super curvy...I look like an ivory sausage roll. I also feel like my stomach sticks up too much in it (even with super spanx under it), I look like I have no breats (despite being a DD!) and my brother was unable to get the privacy panel in the back to snap together. I just looked AWEFUL.
I have no idea if its salvageable. I feel that on someone else- thinner, prettier- the dress would be stunning. On me? The opposite. :_(
Also- the bottom of the top (the slash of material of the upper piece) seems really low. I was expecting it to hit about my knees, instead it hits my ankles, so instead of a beautiful full skirt like in the picture, its more scrunched looking?
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That is a beautiful dress and I'm sure you can salvage it, you just have to take a deep breath and get a woman to help you get into it, lol. I don't think most men would be able to properly work a corset (and they shouldn't be expected to, lol). I'm sure your brother did his best, but having someone with more experience lace you up probably will help. It sounds as though at this point you're stressing hardcore so before you go anywhere near the dress again you need to calm down. And I promise, there is no way a DD woman would look flat!
I agree with the above posters. You need to find a seamstress and have her alter it for you. I am sure once it fits you properly, you will feel much better about it. The fitting issues that you are describing seem like they would be an easy fix. I am also a DD and I know some things, if they are too small will make you look flat. Your seamstress can sew in some cups for you to give you some extra support or you can get a nice bra that fits properly and you will see a huge difference.
Awww Rabbit I am so sorry you're not happy! I remember PMing you about your dress cause it was soooo gorgeous!!! Definitely agree, make an appointment with a great steamstress! They can sew in cups, let out where it needs to be, add fabric whatever! They can do amazing things! Definitely you can have the dream dress you want!!! hugs!
We really could use a picture of you in it. I am guessing it is not nearly as bad as you think. Also, nothing you mentioned isn't salvagable.
1 - check the measurements on the dress with the measurements you ordered. If they don't match, get in touch with the company immediately. They should rush you a new dress. At the very least, send you a bigger modesty panel and pay for your alterations. If you tried on similar dresses and liked how they look, this shouldn't have been that much different.
2 - get it to a good seamstress immeditely. She can ascertain if it can be let out, how much, etc. To MandaMack's point, she probably has more experience with corsets than your brother. Unless your brother is Randy from Say Yes to the Dress...
3 - have a back up plan just in case. As others noted, DB might be a good option. They have a similar dress that is strapless. A local salon also may have samples in the same price range. Depending on the cost of alterations, this may actually be cheaper.
4 - if your dress isn't what you ordered and the company won't do anything about it, nail them on every wedding board in the free world and the BBB. Just make sure you have your facts straight and are unemotional when you ask for compensation.
Maybe just go get it tailored??? A good tailor should be able to fix it on you!
BEST OF LUCK!
Take it to a seamstress immediately. She can probably take up the bottom - a lot. That will help with breaking up your body differently, there also might be a little fabric left that she can let out to give you more room.
Def. get another opinion!
UPDATE: When my FMIL got home from work today, I rushed over to her place with the dress. She helped me out it on (laced up the back fully, etc.) and she agrees- I look terrible in the dress! i seriously look like a curveless, flat-chested ivory sausage! After crying again having my feelings and views confirmed by another lady, she took me dress shopping saying she'll pay for a new dress but only if she gets final approval on it (which is cool with me). We hit up David's Bridal and found a dress which looked ok on me (all the dresses I tried on, even the worst of them, looked better then the dress I already have!) but they didn't have it in my size. I tried a size down and a size up and neither of them worked. :( I'm now going to have to spend the weekend dress shopping frantically instead of BBQing and wedding DIYing like I planned. I am SO VERY THANKFUL my FMIL is super amazing and loves me! Without her I'd Still be crying and not sure what to do.
As for the dress I have already, I'm going to try to sell it, unaltered and unworn. I really don't think there is anyway I will look good in it, no matter the amount of alterations. *sigh* My FMIL said the only way it seems I'd be able to wear the dress is with extensive alterations AND if I loose 30+lbs in the next month. The first is expensive and the second impossible.
I went from being SO excited about my upcoming wedding to dreading it. I feel like no matter what white dress I end up with, I'm going to look like a whale which will ruin my wedding day. I feel like I'm going to spend the whole day crying! :_( Now I just want to call the whole stupid thing off and just get married at the court house, sans everyone but my FI.
Nothing is impossible! You will find a dress you love! I am sorry the one you bought didn't work out! You shouldn't dread your wedding day, you will be gorgeous and it will be a blast! Think poitive! This can be done! And you will still be able to have fun this weekend!
That's a HORRIBLE update! You stop talking about yourself like that! There is a perfect dress out there for you that you are going to rock! I totally feel your pain about "last min" dress changes, and I know the "fear" about finding 'the one.' Just keep the faith, and keep telling yourself that you ARE gorgeous, your NOT a sausage, and you are going to be the sexiest bride your FI has ever seen. You're the love of his life and I bet he loves the way you look! Take some of his confidence in your appearance and next time you shop, you ROCK the dresses you try on and you love yourself! It's not the dress that makes you a gorgeous bride, it's you. :-)
I think all things happen for a reason. I bet you will find a wedding dress that will make you look Fantastic!!! :)
I know how you feel! Finding a dress is so much pressure! I didn't have anyone around to help me, and I never even went to a bridal salon and I ordered one online and it...was... a nightmare! I was really sad.
You'll find your perfect dress!! Everything will work out in the end... I have a feeling you'll fall in love with your "final" dress even more than first one :) GOOD LUCK. Keep us posted!
I know where you're coming from. The first dress I ordered was a custom-made replica of a designer gown and it was totaly not what I wanted and I cried too. I almost settled for a white peasant/boho dess and then I was looking on eBay and found my dress. I ordered it (only $100) and when it arrived, it fit as if it was custom-made for me. There IS a dress out there for you and you will look fabulous in it.
Have you tried another DB if you found a flattering dress, maybe they can call around and see if another store has it in your size? Is it avaliable online? I'm not sure what their online return policy is but if you could return it if it does not work, that could be an option.
I also think looking for a used dress or just a pre-owned dress is a good option in such a short time but it sounds like you are not a standard size so buying a dress that you have not tried on is risky. Look online at Nordstrom and Macy's and even J. Crew or Ann Taylor, all of these stores have options for instand delivery and accept returns!
Good luck, I'm sure you will find something.
I did a bit of searching at Nordstrom.com, not knowing your size but looking for something that is modest but shows off your curves without breaking the bank. I know strapless dresses tend to be the enemy of DD girls but sometimes they really look great and Nordstrom is great with returns so you can order several dresses and ship back the ones you don't like.
You WILL find a dress that looks amazing on you! Right now you're just upset and that probably colors your opinions of the dresses you see and how you feel about yourself. Take comfort in the fact that you have a FMIL who is amazing and very generous and you have a FI who loves you for you! Just keep searching and I would have the DB call and see if another DB nearby has the dress.
I'm so sorry about this. I'm sure you will look amazing in the right dress. Have you tried a local consignment store? David's Bridal can be hit or miss depending on your sales person, but my local consignment store owner was fabulous. I bought my perfect dress the day I went in, knew it looked good, and could have had it altered within weeks. And it was over 75% off retail. I consider my middle and thighs the less-good parts of me - princess seams and stiff fabric are my friend :)
Google maps came up with I DO Designer Bridal Consignments in Chicago as a place with great reviews.
I think it's great that you're getting a new dress. Sell the other one - here or oncewed. You can give the $ to your FMIL.
I can totally relate - I bought my dress online and when I received it I cried for 3 days straight. Although I am wearing mine - just did some of my own 'alterations.' It's not my dream dress, but compared to what it looked like before, it's gorgeous. You want to feel beautiful and comfortable on your wedding day. You'll find one!
I feel your pain and think you made the right decision to get rid of the dress. I also thought I looked like a ivory whale in some wedding dresses. The key (and this is crucial!) is to find the right FIT for you. For me, it was a dropped waist. I cant even tell you how amazing I felt once I found the right style and cut.
You, my dear, have not found "it" yet. Im so glad your FMIL is going to buy you a new dress. And I promise you that when you find the right cut, you will feel gorgeous, thin, and all those things every bride should feel!
Update us when you find the one!
Hi - I agree with KLP2010 & TwinkleToesJMU. Throw out your preconcieved notions of what will look nice on you, throw out any thoughts on your "faults", PLEASE, we all have something but our men love us just as we are. Then go shopping. Tell the ladies at the salon to find you everything they can to try on. Its their job and they are good at it. Let them do their magic. Now take a deep breathe and enjoy the knowing that you will have a "this is IT" moment soon!
@His Barista: thanks for being so positive! I DID find "the one" tonight! Yay! :D I feel stunning in the dress...Yay! :D
@KLP2010: He does love the way I look and its a huge mystery to me as to why! But I love him all the more for it, so it works out. :)
@rlsulli1598@verizon.net: I DID find a dress which makes me feel fantastic! Thanks!
@cbee: Oh no! Another Sad story! What did you end up doing to correct the situation? Are you happy with the way things turned out?
@SuperShopper: I do love my new dress on me way more then the first, thanks!
@bluespurrs: I am glad you too had a good outcome with a second dress! I never in a million years thought I'd end up being a 2-dress bride! Also- YAY for finding such a great deal which looked fab!
@slicey19: Thank you so much for looking for dresses for me! You are awesome! Those are some lovely dresses you found! I ended up going to the other DB in town to try on the dress I liked yesterday but in my size this time and falling in love with another dress the clerk just pulled off the rack for me on a whim. Its nothing like the chiffon dream from yesterday and nothing like the dress I bought online either, but I felt stunning in it! Thank you again for your help and concern!
@Treasure43: I am forever greatful to have SUCH an amazing FMIL- seriously. She saved the whole wedding! I am truly not sure how this wedding would ever happen without her amazing assitance and help every step of the way. I also think I was too upset to think clearly yesterday, but luckily shopping tonight was better!
@rachelss: Thank you for the great idea! If I hadn't found my dress tonight you can bet I would have acted on your kind advice and searching! :D
@October4040: Oh no! My thread seems to be showing me this is a common problem! :_( I am glad that after your alterations you find it acceptable- if not your dream dress. i Totally get the crying! I am right there with you! What needed fixing/changing to improve your dress? Can anything else be done to make you go from "it'll do" to "wow!"?
@TwinkleToesJMU: You know, you were right! I felt thin, curvy (good curvy, not fat curvy), and beautiful in my dress! Instead of feeling like a while wearing something beautiful, I felt like I was someone beautiful wearing a fab dress! Now THAT feeling is worth a whole lot! As for the update- I posted pictures and an update here.
@baipo: It was my sales clerk who found my dress! I asked her for chiffon dresses (since I was there to try one on specifically) and she came back with several chiffon and 1 taffeta...and it was the taffeta she'd thrown in on a whim which worked for me! YAY for trusting the sales clerk!!
THANK YOU TO EVERYONE FOR YOUR HELP, CONCERN, ADVICE, AND LAMENTING WITH ME! ITS MEANS THE WORLD TO ME TO KNOW I CAN TURN TO THE BEE WHEN THINGS LOOK THE WORST!! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!
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I look absolutely AWEFUL in it! My brother helped me get into it after it arrived and...I cried and cried and I'm STILL crying! The dress itself isn't exactly what I was picturing, but its still beautiful and I'm sure on the right person it'd be stunning. On me, however, its just terrible. I couldn't even take any pictures it was just so bad. My brother, the sweetheart that he is, said I looked fine, but all I could think was "no, I don't! I look like the ugliest bride EVER!" and then cry some more. My FI doesn't know what to do. He feels bad knowing I am crying, but he hasn't seen the dress on or off me (He was showering while I recieved it and tried it on) and doesn't quite get why I'm so upset. He's making me tea though.
I was SO SO excited when I went to get the box from my porch! And now I feel devestated! My wedding is in a month and we don't have any money for a new dress. *goes back to crying some more*