Post # 1
It’s a lonnnggg story and to make it short, I have to change the date from 12/1 to 4/1
I called my venue and they said they would move it without penalty. THANK GOD.
I am so stressed and super emotional and I can’t even think straight right now because I feel crazy that this is happening.
We still have to talk to our photographer, chef, and friends/family. What bothers me the most is having to break the news to the people coming. They got off work already.
Should I pay for people’s flights or car rentals if they can’t get their money back?
Do I have to send invites out again announcing the new date to people who couldn’t make it to the first date? Do people have to RSVP all over again?
Luckily this is an intimate wedding. The only thing is that it’s full of small details.
The worst part is my wintery vision is out the window.
Post # 3
Why do you have to? Is there 100% no other option?
Post # 4
Darn. Sorry this is happening. 4/1 will still be beautiful, and it’ll be here before you know it.
Since it’s so close, yes, I would pay for any change fee that people are assessed for changing their flight, hotel, & car reservations, etc.
Post # 5
@peachacid: job related, no option, 100% : (
Post # 6
@LuluInLove: ???? That’s awful. Quit your job, find a new one, and get married December 1! =)
April will be lovely. Don’t worry. I would worry about everyone who probably already has flight and hotel reservations. How many people are flying in?
Post # 7
Oh my gosh. So sorry this happened to you! =/
Post # 8
That sucks. I couldn’t imagine. To answer your questions…
1. Flights/car rentals: Depending on how they booked, they’ll probably still be able to cancel if they have 23 days until the date of travel. In the event your guests are unable to cancel their reservations, it would be nice of you to compensate them especially if you expect them to travel again in April. Of course it’s not necessary but I know that if I was a guest, I would really appreciate the sentiment.
2. Invites/RSVP’s: I’d say yes to both. If you’re having an intimate wedding, there shouldn’t be too many invites to send and replies to gather. Assuming most of the guest list are close friends and family, some may actually want to keep the invitation as a keepsake and having an invite to a wedding that didn’t actually happen would be pretty useless. If this was me, I’d definitely resend invitations with the updated info.
Post # 9
@LuluInLove: I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to tell you I am so sorry. I am a 12/1 bride and I can’t imagine. Lots of hugs!!
Post # 10
For flights, have your quests check with the airlines they booked on, most major airlines let you change the date of your flights with a penalty fee (usually $100-$200). Definitely worth checking on!
Post # 11
Just wanted to update you guys! I changed the date to 3/17 because 4/1 would make our venue costs double due to “Easter rates”? Who knew. Anyway, everyone has been super understanding and a couple people will no longer be able to make it while a couple of others will be able to due to the change.
The only flight that was lost was my dad’s. It would have cost just as much as the ticket to change it so we just let it go.
My photographer was able to change her hotel reservation and hadn’t bought her flight tickets yet–thank God!
I’m not sending out invites again. *gasp* I know. I just had too much stress to deal with when this all went down and I made a list of priorities. I did not want to redo them. It’s a destination wedding so it’s pretty clear who does/doesn’t care enough to make the trip IMO.
The second most stressful part has been changing my vision about the transition of fall to winter. This WAS my inspiration board:http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/sets/72157629827637935/
So, no more felt, acorns, or cozy things like blankets, hot cocoa, etc. My menu has also drastically changed and I am still not certain what to do.
I feel so strange being a March bride! I’ve been planning a wintery lodge wedding for too long. Ughhh.
Thanks everyone for the support! You all made me feel better in a time of a meltdown.