(Closed) My wedding is causing others to break up!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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34 posts
Newbee

Obviously the couples that broke up did not have relationships strong enough to sustain a marriage.  They should consider themselves lucky to have found out sooner than later and you should not feel responsible.  I think sometimes girls have a tendency to react to their friends getting married and just the talk of marriage around their boyfriends sends them running scared….. NOT your fault.

Post # 4
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

That stinks your friends are going through sad times while you’re having happy times.  But I agree with Ragtop.  It’s probably for the best that they broke up now if your engagement caused them friction.  You’re saving them years of not talking about it until finally one of them said ‘enough!’

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

That stinks your friends are going through sad times while you’re having happy times.  But I agree with Ragtop.  It’s probably for the best that they broke up now if your engagement caused them friction.  You’re saving them years of not talking about it until finally one of them said ‘enough!’

Post # 6
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Sounds like your friends are looking to blame someone.  IDK.  We don’t have a ton to go by, but I’m inclined to go with what Ragtop said.  I think maybe your friends started acting weird after your engagement. (and the bf’s ran.)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow I’m so sorry. This could be a good thing for your friends, I’m sure they’ll find some one so much better! Don’t let this get to you to badly, it is going to be a very happy time for you, you and your man are going to start a whole new happy!!, life together!

But i do agree with what Tanya123 said, something obviously caused the break up, and I’m sure you didn’t go to each guy and hound them to marry the girls or anything like that

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ok that was extremely rude of your friend to blame her breakup on you! Yea she’s hurting and lashing out but thats so out of line, I’m so sorry! You have absolutely no reason to carry the blame for these couples, they obviously had issues. If theyre your friends, they wont let a breakup get in the way of sharing in your special day. I like that youre being respectful and not disregarding their breakup by bringing up being in your wedding right now but after a little bit of time, I would think its ok to ask them and hopefully they will want to.

Post # 9
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2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

that’s a really tough situation, but like you said, your engagement and the success of your relationship has nothing to do with their break-ups… even the girl that said your engagement is what spawned the “re-evaluation” had problems long before you were engaged.

let time heal the wounds and feel out what the appropriate plan of action is in planning your wedding party.

and in the midst of your frustration, you always have the hive to listen! 🙂

Post # 10
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Your wedding is not the reason they broke up, lady! I know it’s hard, but change is good when change is needed.

Congrats on your engagement! Hope the wedding is great =).

Post # 11
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is the lamest excuse ever!!!! I can’t believe a friend would tell you YOUR engaged caused HER boyfriend to rethink. Obviously they didn’t have a lot of strong stuff underneath it all. But seriously…who tells someone that?!

Post # 13
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177 posts
Blushing bee

Ugh, even if my long term bf and I broke up because we were thinking about weddings, I would never tell my recently engaged friends. I would full blown lie to their faces if I had to. I feel like you should be able to invite them to be in your bridal party anyway, this is totally not your fault!

Congrats, btw!

Post # 14
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I think then, that your engagement is a blessing in disguise for your friend. If the issues were present before, then it was only a matter of time before they broke up. If your engagement sped the process up, then the sooner she’ll be able to meet the man she’s REALLY supposed to be with!

Don’t feel guilty. This is a truly happy time for you, and I’m sure your friends are happy for you even though they might not be going through the best time at the moment. And still ask them to be bridesmaids! Just let them know that if it’s too painful, you completely understand if they don’t want to, but you would love for them to stand up next to you.

Good luck and congratulations!

Post # 15
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Tsk, your friend was rude and blaming you when she needs to look at herself and her relationship. None of those break ups are your fault and if anyone treats you as if it is obviously didn’t have a good relationship to start off with if something like SOMEONE ELSE’S engagement made them break up.

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