Post # 1
I’m getting married in 11 days and I’m not looking forward to the day.
Starting at 5 weeks before the big day, everything started to slowly unravel. The latest event is my friend of 10 years and bridesmaid backed out of the wedding and ended out friendship just 13 days before the wedding – all because she didn’t like my matron of honor.
With that, our photographer was acquired thru the friend that has backed out on us. Now I need to worry about finding a new photographer with only 11 days.
Our reception venue has decided to jack up the prices on us and not want to setup our tables and chairs though they said two months it wouldn’t be a problem.
Our setting for the ceremony has fallen apart as well and we only have half of the seating we need for our outdoor ceremony.
Oh and I have a bridesmaid that will be going into labor any day now.
And the groomsmen won’t be able to pick up their tuxes when they were told to which will take out my makeup artist for the wedding morning.
Any advice on how to deal with this? I want to marry my fiance, I just didn’t think it would be this unhappy of an ordeal.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear this. You have a lot on your plate right now. I suggest getting responsible, trustworthy people to research photographers, renting chairs, creating a set up crew, make up artist etc. Give each responsible person 1-2 assignments then have them get back to you with their top pics/ideas at the end of the day. Let them do the legwork then you and your Fiance make the final decisions. You have a lot to fix in a little bit of time, but it is doable. Breathe….
Post # 4
I suggest you get a wedding planner… OR someone (maybe a friend?family member?) that could help you start organizing and finding replacements… I’m sure you want to marry your fiance… but right now, what I think you may need is somebody to help you sort out all these things that is going on…
Good luck =)
Post # 5
This all sounds super stressful and I am sorry you have to go through this so close to your big day!
As for the friend leaving the wedding party and your friendship with her, it must not have been that strong if she can’t come to you and talk about it beforehand. All over the MOH? Sounds like a little jealousy.
Photographers can be easy to find. you will just need to take the time to look. If they are busy during your event, ask them if they know anyone who is free. Tell them you are on a time crunch/emergency.
If the venue said they would set up the chairs, do you have that in writing? If you do, show them and don’t let them back out. if not, talk to people higher than whomever you are speaking with right now. it is your day and you were told one thing and you want it.
Getting tuxes will take out your make-up artist? I am confused on this one.
If you do really want to get married and have been thinking about it for this long, then fight to make it happen. Sure it will be a little work and in the back of your mind, you will be sad it wasn’t perfect, but it can be perfect in a different way!