(Closed) My wedding is just an excuse to party (FILs)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@InATizzy:  If you are paying for most of it, how did she get in control? I’m curious. What other things has she disregarded? I saw go visit to her shower and have your MOH throw one as well, a day with you and your closest friends. You don’t have to stay at your FMIL’s party more than an hour. Matter of fact, go with all your crew and enjoy the food and gifts.

At the RD, surround yourself with your bridal party and close friends. Just smile and know you will be married. However in the future, it’s time to draw boundaries so she won’t become a MIL from hell.

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@InATizzy:  *Big Hug* dear. Is it safe to chalk this up to her being excited or does she genuinely think your wedding isn’t good enough? I was reading your others posts and man I wish you could just elope!

At this point, has she taken over the wedding itself or just the parties associated with it? I would still do a girls day with your friends and attend her wedding shower with all of them plus more people hehehehehe.

If it makes you feel better, my mother and my MIL and SMIL all wore the color of the wedding party on the day off. My aunt even went to Davids Bridal and chose a dress the same colors as my BMs. SInce she is so tall the sales associate gave her a BM dress, so my aunt was in the audience wearing a BM dress the same color and fabric as my maids. I thought it was cute.

Good luck dear!

Post # 7
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@InATizzy:  Oh I know those types! If you are paying for the wedding, you have the say. I would just say to her “We’ve already purchased or decided on this”. That way, maybe she will back off. Hey, as the wedding gets closer, I would stop taking her calls or cut the convo short.

Post # 9
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Uugg she sounds fun! If it were me I would try to stop talking about the wedding around her. If this does not work it’s time for fi to have a talk with her to explain that this is your wedding. You both have to learn to say no some time, when better than now?

Post # 11
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG this is totally my FMIL! I  know what you are going through. We are having a wedding in my fiance’s hometown ( where we both live now) instead of mine because of his mother. At times I feel like I am completely left out of my own wedding plans. She has an opinion about everything..even what kind of shirt he wears. 

About two months ago, I finally grew a pair and told her NO. She was dictating what time the reception would be…I wanted one thing, she wanted another. I told her that I appreciate that she wants it to be at X time, we are having it at XX time and thats that. Since then, I have actually told her no on some other things, and I think she is starting to get the hint. 

Stick up for yourself and your MOH with the party. Tell her that you appreciate everything she has done but your MOH wants to be more invovled and insist on it and from there MOH can take over!!!!  

Good luck on everything! 

Post # 12
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@InATizzy:  I’m soo sorry! 

What was that J.LO movie about the monster MIL? Something familiar I’m sure. I’m going to agree with andeland and just say no. Because she’s only going to get worse. 

 

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