Post # 1
I don’t know if anyone else is feeling like this, but I feel like I am going crazy. I am doing the majority of the planning for a DIY-heavy wedding, with about 7 months to plan it. And it is driving me insane.
One day, I’m super excited about making the centerpieces and decorating the venue, and the next I’m in tears when I disagree with my fiancee about what kind of music should or should not be played. The thing that frustrates me is that I am usually a very levelheaded person, but something about planning a wedding brings out the crazy in me.
There have been times when I have toyed with the idea of just eloping (so much easier! and cheaper!), but we’ve already mentioned the wedding to family and friends, plus my fiancee is really excited about having a celebration.
I can’t wait until this wedding mumbo jumbo is all done, and I can resume being a sane, stable human being. Anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
Oh yeah. I feel like this all the time. Ours is not a DIY wedding, but I am doing the bulk of the planning/calling/keeping track of details. And I feel a lot of pressure to get stuff done and live up to expectations. I also know that if anything’s amiss with the wedding, the bride is the one who gets blamed. Even though this bride wanted a ceremony of immediate family only and it was the groom and his side that insisted on the ginormous event. I’m less than a month away from my wedding and wish I had a dollar for everytime someone attached with my wedding said “You should,” “You need,” “You really ought…” Ugggggghhhh! Of course I feel like I’m losing my grip!
Post # 4
ABSOLUTELY! You are completely not alone! Sometimes I feel great and secure and really excited and then come the times I want to crawl under a rock.
Don’t worry, sweetheart. It’s going to be okay (((HUGS)))
Post # 5
@ Professor – OMG I totally agree! The “you should” or “really? You’re not going to…” makes me the most crazy! There are all these expectations around weddings (many of which I frankly do not understand), and if you don’t follow the wedding “formula” people get their pants all in a tizzy! It’s my wedding! If I want mexican food I will have mexican food! Oops…sorry, just lost it again. See? There’s the crazy!
@ MissHelen – thanks for the encouragment 🙂 I’m sure we could all use a little more positive energy throughout this process.
Post # 6
I feel the same way! For me it helps to get out and do something non wedding related for a little while so that I can calm down for a bit. And this is one of the reasons I love WB, so many people that can relate to you!
Post # 7
You’re definitely not alone! I’m normally a very laid back kind of person but the whole wedding planning is driving me up the wall, seriously. There’s so much pressure to do things perfectly, I think what you’re going through is normal for a bride-to-be. Like you, I can’t wait for the whole wedding to be over with. I feel bad for saying that but the whole wedding planning has been so stressful for me. Maybe I’ll chill out in a month or so.
Post # 8
ditto in it being stressful and I cant wait till its over.. However I am keeping my sanity.. a little.. but other days not so much! I just try not to talk to many ppl those days lol.
Post # 9
I think that wedding planning in general just brings out emotions that like when you’re sitting there crying over cardstock you know in your head it is unreasonable, but it just feels so right! lol
Just remember to breathe. In the end, I think we get all emotional because we just want the day to go smoothly and it is hard to imagine all of the little DIY things coming together in the end and we of course want our guests to have a fantastic time… so you are definitely not crazy for stressing!
Post # 10
I’m so glad I read this post because I feel exactly the same way. And I’ve been feeling like a ‘bad bride’ for not being as excited as people seem to expect me to be. Trust me, I’m excited…for it to be done with! There’s a number of other factors contributing to how I feel (major family drama) but honestly, sometimes I wish we would have just decided to keep it small and simple. The way I see it, the wedding is a day, the marriage is a lifetime and what more attention should be paid to…but I say this now as I’m knee deep in it all!
Post # 11
oh, you are DEFINATELY not alone on this. My wedding is not a DIY wedding, but planning all the details are giving me a total headache. Ive taken some time off from the planning lately, but i really should get back to it.
Post # 12
Absolutely! Judging by the replies above, similar posts I’ve read on the topic, and my own person experience, WE ALL FEEL YOUR PAIN SISTER! Unfortunately it seems to be part of the wedding planning process. Just try to put things in perspective, and remember that the little things you are doing are just minor details of a big EXPERIENCE that you will remember the rest of your life. The most important part of the process is getting married. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and remember that, so you don’t lose your mind in the planning insanity 🙂
Post # 13
Yes! I have exactly 2 months left till the wedding and I cant seem to sleep or think straight! I’m doing and TON of DIY projects and I’m planning my wedding from two hours away from the ceremony and reception sites. My mom lives there ad shes doing the best she can and my Fiance family who also lives there (Who dont even want to help). So I’m pretty much going solo with the DIY projects and every. single. little. friggin. DETAIL! And dont even get my started on how much my Fiance helps. He just wants to help pick out the food and music. The other night he tried doing a DIY project with me and we found out he sucks at being crafty…..
…Did this post make me sound mean????? Maybe thats my CRAZY side!
Post # 14
Yes! The worst part about it is that Fiance thinks I’m wedding planning obsessed. When you only have 6 months to plan a DIY wedding, you have to be a little obsessive to get everything done in time.
Post # 15
I felt like this at the beginning of my planning – you just have to keep telling yourself that the details don’t matter. DIY projects can be fun, but if you’re not enjoying doing them, don’t. Most guests won’t notice decor, centerpieces, etc – they’re much more concerned about music and food. My stress level definitely went down after I started only spending time on elements of the wedding I actually enjoy planning.
Post # 16
Totally stressed here…I’m so ready for it to be here and then go on the honeymoon. I never thought I’d acutally NOT like the planning, but I really don’t. It’s stressful, exhausting…I hate the fact that I’m ALWAYS thinking of the wedding and planning. I hope these last five weeks go VERY fast..otherwise it’s going to be a long five weeks. LOL Hope all of you can unwind a bit-I’m trying!