My wedding is SUPER late, suddenly panicking…

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
7405 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

when i did my timeline, i was told i should do salad and dinner back to back and cake cutting/dessert around 10/10:30.

they said dinner should be served no later than 9pm.

my reception was 8pm-12am.


Post # 3
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Couple things I would do – have a few apps pre-ceremony. Most people will assume with an evening wedding that dinner will be later and eat beforehand, but it would be nice and keep your guests happy.

Also, if I knew as a guest that a candy bar was coming, I’d stick around. Could you have a timeline for your guests available, either on like an easel stand, or with a menu card at their plates? “Cocktail Hour X, Dinner X, Candy Bar X, Happy Ever After X.” etc.

Post # 4
6209 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

It’ll be fine! You want people to have food throughout the night so they can continue to drink =). Unless it’s a Sunday, most people won’t be leaving so early that they will miss dinner.

Post # 5
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

Don’t worry.  It’ll be ok.  At least you’re having food all throughout the night.  They’ll expect a leter dinner.  I’m also having a 7 pm ceremony, but we’re taking pictures before and skipping cocktail hour to get right into dinner and dancing.  Don’t stress; it’s your wedding.  Guests will always find something to complain about not matter how much thought you put into things.  

Post # 6
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly for a 7 PM wedding I would eat beforehand anyway. What is going on during the hour between the salad and the main course?

Post # 7
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be excited to go to this wedding!

Post # 8
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If the guests know exactly when dinner will be served, it will be okay.

Why not skip the cocktail hour, so dinner could be served earlier? Or serve the entree and salad at the same time?

I eat late, but not usually that late!

Post # 9
7054 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think most people should already know they will be eating late based on the ceremony and cocktail hour times. I would likely east something before coming.

Post # 10
3029 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

You’ll be fine. Anyway, people who get an invitation for a 7pm wedding and who can’t do the math to figure out they need to eat a late lunch? Not your problem.


Post # 11
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If the salad is served at 8:45, the entrees should be served before 9:15. That’s still too late for me, but 10pm doesn’t really make any sense with your timeline. Your meal is really going to be 2+ hours if the cake isn’t even cut until 11?

Post # 12
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MrsCreeToBe:  It’s fine.  Relax.  Get married.

Post # 14
9149 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

MrsCreeToBe:  Don’t New Yorkers eat later in general anyway?  It wouldn’t surprise me too much and so long as the food at the cocktail hour is heavy I would be comfortable waiting to eat dinner until 10.  The only downside I see to it all is that it seems like you will be spending the night eating rather than dancing and partying.  With it being on a Saturday night as a guest I would probably plan to stay until 11 or 12 depending on how good the music and dancefloor is.  But I’m 30 and a lot of the older guests will probably leave before 11pm.

Post # 15
430 posts
Helper bee

I’m normally asleep by 10pm. Lol. But by pp’s responses, you should be good!

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