Post # 1
I know, right? someone keep the booze coming until the wedding day. I’m getting married in my FI home town, two states away. So, his mother is handling alot of the details. (I have already gone round and round with both my FMIL and FI about the decorations, cake, and photographer. No need to hire someone to do my hair, because I will not have any left when the wedding gets here.
So I want to do the classy thing. I feel a gift is a nice guesture for appreciation of her services? I literally met the woman only three times in my life. I don’t know her at all. What do I get her? I feel my stress my get in the way of my decision. The only thing I can think of is a bag of poop on the door step.
Post # 3
It’s his wedding too and his mother planning. Why doesn’t he figure out what to get her?
Post # 5
That is what I thought when I read the title of this post. : ) Why not make the major decisions and have her help with the details (picking up contracts, delivering checks, verifying schedule)? There is no reason she should be making major decisions.
Anyways, get her something indulgent. You can’t go wrong with a gourmet dessert or chocolates. My go-to is a Debauve & Gallais sampler. If she hates it, it’s still a beautiful thought – one that doesn’t sit around her house out of obligation.
Post # 6
@Bubbles42: *ding*! We have a winner. This is exactly what I thought. If I’m buying something for my SO’s mom, I always ask him even if it’s just coming from me. So you better believe if it was for OUR wedding, he’d be the one buying it.
Post # 7
@Chelle-Lee: I dont really understand why your FMIL is planning your wedding, especially if she is not interested in your vision. Is she paying for the wedding as well?
Post # 8
@Chelle-Lee: Wow, we are in very similar situations! My FMIL is doing a lot of planning, mostly because her and my FFIL are paying. She doesn’t work and pretty much just finds more ideas to show me, often changing her mind multiple times. I am not buying her anything, because we don’t really have a lot of money and they know that.
Post # 9
@MlleDarcy: Me too. Just “no.”
Let your FI deal with her. That’s the best way to minimize conflict.