- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
The flowers- We got them from costco. Two dozen roses for $17.99, so we got 10. And they were amazing! We got different shades of red, and I got so many compliments on them. Doing your bouquets and bouts is pretty easy, IF you have the help. I did them the night before, my bms were supose to help me, but didnt…. So my grandmas, fmil and one of my good friends came over. One piece of advice it make extra bouts! With all the hugging and what not, they will break! My bouquet was easy, just have someone hold them, and stand above the flowers so your looking down, and add one at a time. Sounds funny, but it was the easiest way. I stabbed my fmil so many times with thorns, but she told me she was happy to help.
My photographer- One word, my saviour. I had known her for a couple years, and she was just starting out. She charged me $500, she brought an assistant was there all day, took unlimited pics and helped me out so much! After getting ready at my sisters (bm’s) apartment, I went back to my parents to get changed. And I had a melt down, my make up was SO BAD! Dont let someone fix it for you, or put on your fake eyelashes. I looked like a bad drag queen. And my hair was aweful, nothing like the trial. So she told me not to worry! She ran out, got me new eyelashes while I re-did my eye makeup (an hour before the ceremony) and her assistant (who is a going to school to be a hair dresser) fixed me up. I was so thankful! I felt a lot better after. My sisters were still getting ready at the other place, and did not going to come help me get ready (even though I asked them too), so the assistant helped me get into my dress and started to lace me up. My mom finished it off and helped me with everything else. But the photographers were great, easy to work with, lots of pictures were taken and gave great ideas for pictures. They stayed until after the first couple dances. Im definilty recommending her to others. **Also, get your photog to take pictures of your make-up while your doing it. It helps a lot.
Kids- Im glad we had kids at our wedding, they were fun, looked cute and were super well behaved! They all played with one another, and our venue had a playground just outside, so that was a plus. Lots of babys but none cryed and just slept away in the strollers. One little girl though thought it would be ok to “dance” on the back of my dress…and her grandparents (my auntie and uncle) thought it was cute….I didnt make a scene, I just laughed and said “Good thing I’ve had a few drinks!” and pulled my dress away. My mom later talked to them and said that it was not ok when they were laughing about how “cute” it was.
My dress- Ohhh my dress. The bustle would NOT stay in or hold, so thank goodness my dress had one of those arm/hand ribbons on the inside, so I just hooked it on my elbow and away I went. It worked just fine and looked really good. And also, dont be suprised if your dress is just about destroyed by the end of the night. Mine got stepped on, and it also got ripped at the end of the night.
The bridal party- Ok, this might sound bad but be wise on who you choose. I thought it would be great to have my sisters. Well, it was a battle over there bm dresses, they didnt help much, they tried to battle all of my decisions. When it was time to do the bouts and bouquets they vanished. The grooms men tried the best they could with things (men and flower centerpieces dont mix!). But one gm didnt get into town until late the day before. They didnt help me get finish getting ready, or bustle my dress before the ceremony (which I told them I needed them for). There speech was well…more on debating who the better maid of honour would have been. It was funny and cute, but it was all about them. Our budget was small, so a lot of things were dyi. My MOH kept making comments about “how shes going to hire someone to do everything”. Ok thats great, but we had a small budget. Its not like they were asked to do everything!
The bar and food- We did an open bar for the first two hours, then after that it was $2 a drink. We also did a vodka lemonade, wine for the tables if they wanted a bottle and other punches. The guests loved it. The lemonade was a big hit, and tasted great! The meal was buffet style thanksgiving style dinner. Simple but tasted amazing! Our caterer did an awesome job. Our wedding favours we Lindt chocolates, and good thing we bought extras cause they were all gone by the end of the night.
The DJ- A bit of an issue. He stongly debated all my do not plays, kind of rude and didnt listen to guests requests. Which it odd because a lot of people recommended him. If you want to here exactly what you want, get a computer and do it yourself, I’m really wishing we would have. But my parents told me that they would pay for it, cause they wanted one.
The morning off- I will admit it, I had a good cry. Not to the fact that I was getting married, or nervous, but to the fact that I felt that no one helped me. My parents did, but I had to call people, cause my bms bailed, my Fi’s mom helped as much as she could, but she also drove 14 hours the night before, so she was pretty tired. People would call and ask if I needed anything, then when I would say yes, they wouldnt show. I think my cry was also fuelled by a big lack of sleep. I was up until 2am the night before trying to finish things. Things that I asked the bridal party to help me with. I know the bms are not your slaves, but the things I asked were pretty basic. No one threw me a shower either, which kind of hurt. I suggested maybe we could all go out for supper instead of a bachlorrette party, but nothing got planned, and when I suggested we go out for a drink after our nail appt, the one bm wanted to go see her boyfriend instead. My mom just hugged me and told me not to worry, she totally understood. Its funny even when your 25 a good long hug from your mom makes you feel better.
Family disfunction- My FI was worried about some family who DO NOT get along. But his grandma was the real problem. She was constantly fighting with him a few days before and made some pretty mean comments about me, so finally he just told her not to come. Cold, but describing this woman would take forever. Shes mean, cold and treats people like garbage. My Fi said he was actually happy she didnt come. He hasnt talked to her since. Also, his godmother didnt come, because of a fight his mom and her had 10 years ago. She rsvp’d, but was a no show. His mom, step dad, brothers and sisters were the only family he had there, but they had so much fun and told me they feel like they have a big new family!
Our wedding was small, about 90 people came. But the whole night everyone kept telling me how much fun they were having and what an awesome wedding it was. Expect no shows, we had about 10. So Im really happy we did a buffet style dinner. We didnt do a bouquet toss, because we were all having so much fun dancing! When I have my pictures I will post some!