Post # 1
I was having a discussion with my best friend/bridesmaid the other night and we were talking about how when we were growing up we had this huge idea of what we wanted our wedding day to be like. There were a few simple guidelines that I thought I wanted and wouldn’t compromise on such as:
1- I never wanted an outdoor wedding
2- I wanted to wear an ivory dress
3- I wanted a very formal dinner
4- I wanted the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to be floor length and regal looking
After meeting my Fiance, those guidelines didn’t really match “us” anymore… so I felt like I had a lot more room to be creative and didn’t have to go with the original plan. NOW that I am actually engaged and planning a wedding I…
1- am having an outdoor ceremony AND reception ( definitely didn’t see that one coming!)
2- am still drawn to ivory dresses but love seeing other brides in the diamond white color.. so I am more open to the idea
3-We are having a very fun/relaxed reception with buffet style food… and an abundance of mason jars, candles and home brewed beer
4- The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are going to be just above the knee and very light/summery ( a huge contrast the the floor length gown I was imagining!)
Anyone else out there had their whole “plan” change once they met their Fiance, started pricing things or their taste started changing as they got older?
Post # 3
Yes! Not exactly the same as your situation but, I was never one of those girls who thought of her wedding growing up. I had never even thought about getting married until I met Fiance. 🙂
Post # 4
When I planned my pretend weddings before my Fiance they always involved:
- A fall wedding (with a deep burgendy and gold as the colors)
- a sizable bridal party
- a formal reception
- a big, poofy wedding gown
- everything definitely indoors!
And now I love what I’m planning and working on:
- a June wedding with a deep bright pink and charcoal grey color scheme
- we’ve rented a vacation home for the ceremony and reception and doing everything outside!
- a bridal party consisting of a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (and only because the Fiance really wants his bff to be his BM)
- we’re having a bbq dinner and a very casual reception (and a s’more bar…soooo excited!)
It changed for a lot of reasons, logistically, we’ve been together for coming up on two years…have lived together for all but 4 months (which seemed insane at the time…but I knew if I was comfortable moving in with him, I was going to be marrying him), and despite being engaged 9 months, I’m just now starting to plan. We don’t want to wait until fall 2012 to get married because we’re ready to start a family but we would really prefer to be married before we have kids.
I’m also working hard to accomodate his interests and at the end of the day, I want my wedding to be FUN. I don’t want it to be another typical wedding ceremony and reception, I want it to be a party.
Not to mention, bbq, outdoors, less traditional flower arrangements, that all adds up to way less money. So I’m really excited about how things have developed.
Post # 5
I never had a ‘wedding’ style, because I never saw myself as getting married, but I always figured if I DID get married, I would probably let my mother plan something traditional and just go with the usual flow. Now, Fiance and I have been talking heavily about doing a destination wedding, and I can honestly say I NEVER, EVER thought I would even consider that. So I guess in a way my style changed.
Post # 6
I didn’t have a wedding style until I had a fiance.
Post # 7
haha ohh yes!! My vision of a wedding has changed SO many times!! Heres my story:
Growing up I always thought I dreamed of having a huge formal wedding with a big puffy ball gown dress with all of my friends and family there. My best friend and I used to always talk about this. The only thing that has stayed the same was I always knew my best friend would be my Maid/Matron of Honor…and she is!
Then I went through a stage where I didn’t even think I wanted to get married. I had a really rough break up and relationship. After 6 years of dating, I just didnt have any intention of marrying anymore.
Then I started dating my Fiance. After 4 months of dating I got pregnant completely unexpected! She is now 2 and she is amazing but we definitley didnt think we were ready. A year later my Fiance proposed and then I got all crazy with the wedding ideas ago. Well…. my dad passed away from cancer. Two months after that, my mom got diagnosed with cancer. Couple months after that they found a lump in me and I had a breast cancer scare. ( I was only 25, so this was a huge scare for everybody) Things just seemed to be crumbling and I knew I could never plan a wedding without my mom and since she was feeling so sick I wouldnt dare try try to start .Also. I was so close to my dad and I couldn’t imagine having a big wedding and not having him there to walk my down the aisle. With everything going on, I just said lets just go to the courthouse. We already live together, we have a baby, we are super busy…so why not!
Well we are now 6 months away from our wedding! My mother is in remission, I had a lumpectomy and I am cancer free, and I know my dad wants nothing more than for me to have a wedding of my dreams.
I am having a ceremony outside and the reception inside. However, my dress is something I never pictured myself in!! I always pictured big prciness ballgown but mine is pretty form fitting and LACE! I always thought my girls would be in short dresses because I figured I would get married in the summer. Well I am having a winter wedding with long and navy blue dresses. Never imagined my flower girl would be my own daughter either.. 🙂 She will be 2 1/2 on our wedding day and this is a big day for her too!!
Crazy! Just to think a couple months ago I was just like forget it, lets go to the courthouse! Everything has been going sooo smoothly and to see my mom so happy brings tears to my eyes. She is helping with all the planning and she loves it. I tell her everyday how thankful I am for her.
Wow, sorry my story is so long.. I never realized how many times I changed my wedding ideas! haha.
Post # 8
I had lots of different ideas for my wedding, but they were all over the place. My wedding is going to end up being a lot more formal than I had imagined, I think, but I never had any details really planned out. The one thing I knew for certain was that I would wear a ballgown, and that is definitely staying the same. Otherwise, we mostly just planned the wedding together, and I didn’t have many preconceived ideas to change!
Post # 9
No not really, I have always wanted to get married in the church I grew up in and I did get married there.
Post # 10
I dont know if I thought about the details of my wedding tomuch before I met Fiance. But I can say that I think my wedding would have the same “look” no matter what. This is the wedding that I want and like. I guess I am just lucky that he is letting me do whatever I want lol