Post # 1
This is very hard for me to “talk” about…but…here goes nothing.
I have struggled with an eating disorder for many years(since my early teens).
I am usually able to keep it under control but in the chaos of wedding planning and all the stress surrounding the wedding I feel that I am slowly going back to my old patterns of restricting my diet and working out way harder than I usually do.
Any brides here experiencing anything like this?
Post # 3
I definitely had a dip. I restricted a bit before the wedding and then afterward had pretty much a full blown relapse. Try to stay strong, focus on what the wedding is all about, and seek professional help if necessary. good luck 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I’m a bit older and consider myself recovered, but when a close friend who also had an ED got married at about 22, I know she dealt with a lot of control issues and triggers during her planning.
Post # 5
I think you will find yourself with much company in that regard, unfortunately. Although I have forced myself to maintain healthy food consumption I too have found myself wanting to restrict my diet far more than recommended.
It is a lot of pressure to look beautiful and perfect on your wedding day so it isn’t a shock that you have reverted to your old habits. Just remember that your FI is marrying you for who you are now….not 10, 20, 30 pounds lighter.
In keeping with the the same mind frame I say if you want to limit your intake I understand but make sure you eating the minimum (at least) amount of calories recommended. You don’t want your metabolism to stop and your body to become run down and eat away at any muscle tone.
Post # 6
I do pretty much all the time. I’m technically “recovered”, but it’s a struggle every day. I’ve recently begun seeing a therapist again and it’s helping.
I know how you feel. I really hope you feel better soon. Maybe talk to someone about it, see if you can come up with a plan together to get yourself back on track. <3
Good luck, doll.
Post # 7
I am honestly considering calling my therapist again to nip this in the bud before it gets out of control again….
Post # 8
@MrsJoyful80: This is a mechanism for dealing with stress-not to mention freaking out about your appearance and feeling out of control–I’m recovered but stressful events always bring out these behaviors in me–I would suggest counseling but if that’s not going to happen try to find other ways to get out the stress–maybe venting to a friend
Oh and throwing out the scale is a good idea
Post # 9
@MrsJoyful80: I 100% agree that you should call your therapist. Wedding planning is stressful, and I know for me when I get stressed the first thing I do is start restricting and falling into old patterns. Having someone to talk to through this will help you not fall into those old ways.
Post # 10
I can totally sympathize. And you’re definately not alone. While I haven’t had any problems in many years, I’m on the look-out now that I’m wedding planning, because I know it can be stressful. And I think it’s a great idea to at least check in with your therapist. You may can choose to set up regular appointments, or just go in when things get overwelming. But I think it’s really smart to be proactive before things get out of control.
Post # 11
@MrsJoyful80: I definitely would. It’s good that you’re aware of the issue and you’re recognizing it, the next step, I believe, is to get help. A therapist will be great not just for dealing with your ED, but for dealing with the stressors that the wedding is throwing at you, too. If you take care of this now, I’m very confident you’ll be ok!
If you need anyone to talk to who’s been through it/is still dealing with it, I’m always here. <3
Post # 12
I think it would be a really good idea to talk to somebody and deal with stress. As pp’s have said, a lot of the time people develop behaviors that are harmful to themselves because it gives them a feeling of control, talking to someone to help you figure things out and feel in control without doing something that might be harmful to you is a really good idea. Take care of yourself! *hugs*
Post # 13
I did contact my T and set up an appointment to see her on Monday.
My FI said he wanted to talk to me last night….and he wanted to let me know that he is worried about me losing so much weight.
So even he is noticing a difference.
It is time to start to battle this yet again. 🙁