Post # 1
Okay, I might just be crazy, but it bothers me so much when I hear brides say “I’m getting married on…” or “My wedding is on…” I notice it a lot of Bridezillas and Four Weddings. The couple will be sitting together and the bride will say, “I’m getting married on June 4th at…” or “At MY wedding…” then there are others that say, “WE are getting married on June 4th at…” or “Our wedding is going to be…”
Am I crazy? I notice it in real life too. I have a handful of friends that will be getting married in 2011 and 5 of them always say, “MY, I, me”
Post # 3
I think you’re crazy, I say “my” in real life and here because I’m not here to speak for my FI. I’m speaking for myself. I feel about my wedding etc. It isn’t normal speech to speak for others.
Post # 4
I think it depends on the situation. When walking into bridal boutiques I say “My wedding is… blah blah blah.” It wouldn’t make sense for me to say “Our wedding is…” when my FI is not around.
When looking at flowers with my FI I would use the collective “Our wedding is…” because my FI is next to me.
Post # 5
For me, it depends on the situation. If I am by myself and talking to someone, especially about dresses and “girly” stuff, I will say “I, my, etc.”
If I am with FI then I think we usually say we. I guess it’s weird to say “we” when you’re the only one there. Just my opinion. Doesn’t mean I’m cutting him out or anything.
Post # 6
I always say “we” and “our.” Regardless of whether FI is there or not, the TWO of us are getting married, so it only seems fitting to me. When talking about my dres or bouquet it is singular, but everything pertaining to the both of us deserves the collective possession, IMO.
Post # 7
If Im alone…I usually speak in first person!
But if we are together and accidently say it, I make sure to correct myself! Its not an annoyance or anything to me. I think a lot of women put there whole heart and efforts into this so unless someone else is doing it for them, who else do you give credit when its due?!
Post # 8
Right! And I mean when your FI is around. I say my wedding when I’m talking to friends but if FI is around I say our wedding. I’m talking about situations where FI is with you and you still say MY wedding.
Post # 9
I catch myself saying “my wedding” once in awhile, but it’s usually in situations that don’t pertain to FI anyway. And when we’re together, we both refer to it as “our wedding.”
Post # 10
I switch back and forth but I hate when I say “My…” and I correct it.
Post # 11
I say “me, mine, my, etc” if I am alone, otherwise it sounds like I am referring to an invisible person, LOL. If FI is around, I always say “ours”
Post # 12
Personally I dont understand couples who constantly say “We” with regards to every darn thing and feel they have to prove they are a couple. Of course if you are getting married everyone knows that it involves two people. So theres nothing wrong with saying “my wedding”Just because you love each other/ are engaged/married or live together doesnt mean that you cant speak as an individual anymore.
Post # 14
I use “my” or “I” when I am talking to someone alone and “our” or “we” when talking while he is around. I also use “our” or “we” when communicating with vendors or when I am speaking on behalf of both of us.
Post # 15
Now that I think about it, both things irk me.
It’s weird when women NEVER say “I” – always “we’re doing this,” and “we’ve decided that.” Creepy.
But I get it, Miss Tattoo – the “my wedding” thing is also weird. Not really in passing, but when it becomes too much about “we” and “I,” I start to secretly roll my eyes.