(Closed) My whole engagement has been utterly shit!! (super long massive vent)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2778 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yea it sucks that your mom didn’t put you over her online bf but she doesn’t have to spend her money on you or your wedding, but if she didn’t put you first and then tried to move in with you that’s just F-ed up.

I almost ruined my proposal too lol.  But in the end it happened and it was still so exciting!

I don’t want to touch the MOH and BM drama, I have BM drama too in minor ways.  I don’t know why you were upset by the dress shopping seeing as most of them didn’t live near you and one had a baby.  It stinks but eh. Hopefully you were able to get everyone on the same page.  In a month I will be meeting up with all my BM’s and they will all met and it will be good.  At least I’m hoping it will be.

Your whole in-laws family sounds insane, thank god he is standing up for you and that he has a god family that has stepped in to help you out during this difficult time.

Hopefully you guys can have a less bumpy road to the ceremony!  You asked if it was normal I think the proposal and the BM drama are.  But his family, no, that’s not normal in my experience that’s just nutty.  But like I said at least you have a guy who is strong enough to stand up to them for you. 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Eh, I hate flaky, self involved people. You seem to be surrounded by them… Except your fiancée, he sounds lovely. Yay to you for marrying a nice guy who sticks up for you. As for everyone else, they are already so busy caring about their own interests, you shouldn’t have to. It sucks but at least you do have some wonderful ppl around you, like your god parents. You need to try and ignore your FMIL. She sounds like a headache. You need to talk to your mum. Some people just have no idea, unless you say something.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@roadside tom:  Oh I didn’t mean to come off that way about the proposal! If I did I’m sorry.

Also sorry about your dad.  I would be really sad about that too. 🙁  Your mom just sounds kind of caught in her own stuff for whatever reason.  I would be sooo mad if she ignored all that stuff and then said oh by the way I’m staying at your house forever!  So not cool.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was really sad sometimes during my engagement, as both my sister and my mum didn’t seem to care about anything. The night before my wedding i went to my parents’ to stay the night and it was horrible!!! My sister just stormed in, complaining how my “wedding business” just made her spend a bunch of money in clothes and hairdresser..i was crushed..i was getting married the last day and i was spending those last hours on my old home, the attick where we both grew up with our family!!! I didn’t chose her 150€ dress!!!!! I wouldn’t care less if she had bought a 50€ dress!

Then i had to rush to the streets on my nightgown (!) to help split up a troubled cousin from a fight with a drunken man!!!!!  I went to bed feeling trully disappointed..but next day..oh next day made up for everything :-)..

Post # 9
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Helper bee

stay calm and don’t get stress, you need to look good and be happy on your big day.

Post # 10
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5429 posts
Bee Keeper

I read all of this and I don’t know what to say. I hope your wedding day goes well and like you said “ the most important thing is I’m marrying my best friend and everything else is irrelevant”. Try to have a stress-free day!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Wait, let me get this straight: your future husband’s immediate family will not be coming to the ceremony in part because his brother’s ex-girlfriend (who he dumped because he came out as being gay) is dating your FH’s godfather’s son?

If that’s the case, why the eff does it matter if the gay brother’s ex will be at the wedding with the god-brother?  WTF?

Post # 13
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 I have a feeling the FIL’s will show up. They might bring the drama, but they’re coming. I’m sure of it.

Post # 14
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It sounds like they are a lot of drama. I’m sorry. 🙁 If they don’t come, it would probably be a blessing. It sucks that they can’t put aside their drama for you and their son, though. Weddings bring out a lot of the bad in people…paticularly dramatic, immature people. They’re like a match to set fire to all the crazy. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. It’s really lame. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@roadside tom:  Your FH’s family sounds all kind of special.  For what it’s worth, I think it’s awesome that you and your FI are standing your ground and aren’t giving into the selfish, irrational craziness of his family.  Good for you!  It takes guts to stand your ground and it’s also a bit sad because obviously the relationship between your FI and his family is crumbling, but for y’all it definitely seems like the right decision.  Best of luck with it all!  🙂

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