my wife will defend her mom over me.

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ohno1992:  you should speak to your wife directly about this. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ohno1992:  Have you ever talked to your wife about this? Let her know how it makes you feel, especially when she joins in! (That’s realy messed up btw.) Don’t just tell her in passing or in the middle of another conversation. Sit down with this as the discussion topic and stay calm but firm. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ohno1992:  Talk to your wife about it. Honestly, if my DH was that way about me, I would seek some martial counseling.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

have you spoken directly to your wife about this??

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@HisMoon:  This. Don’t be afraid to have a direct conversation about it. She should know how you feel and make you a priority. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I second the PP’s thoughts about talking directly with your wife and the possibility of marriage counseling.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your wife should not be taking her moms side. You need to talk to her directly about this. It sounds like your wife is the type to get hyper upset if you call her out on anything. Sounds like she wants to please both you and her mother. You need to tell her how much it hurts you that she takes her moms side when it comes to you. She vowed to marry you-not her mom, so her loyalty is to you.

Talk to her kindly and just let her know that you understand that her moms oppinion of you probably puts her in a horrible situation-between defending you and wanting to please her mom-but that she needs to be willing to risk her comfort to stick up for you. If you let this continue it will only get worse and you don’t need your MIL interfering with your marriage.

If you can, when you can, I think it would be best if you two distanced yourself from her.

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